Kodi mungamvetse bwanji kuti munagwidwa chikondi?

Atsikanafe ndife anthu achilendo ndipo nthawi zambiri sitingapeze tanthauzo la malingaliro athu - ndi zovuta kupuma mukamawona, mutu wanu ukutha. Kodi ndingamvetse bwanji ngati ndimagwidwa ndi chikondi kapena kupita kwa dokotala, kuti ndipeze ngati ndi ORZ chabe?

Masewera ndi nthabwala, koma kwenikweni, tidziwa chiyani za kugwera m'chikondi, mumamvetsa bwanji kuti mumagwirizana ndi chikondi ndipo mumaphunzira zambiri? Zotsatira zotsatirazi mu khalidwe lanu zidzakuthandizani.

Momwe mungadziwire kuti munagwidwa chikondi?

Simungakhoze kugona mwamtendere, chifukwa simudziwa ngati muli pachikondi kapena ayi? Ndiye, tsopano titha kumvetsetsa kuti mumagwirizana ndi mwamuna, mukuganizira zizindikiro zotsatirazi.

1. Ndikufuna kuti ndiwone chinthu chomwe ndikuchikonda, nthawi zambiri, kapena ndikukhala naye pafupi.
2. Zolingalira ndi zokambirana zonse ziri tsopano za iye, mtsikanayo sangathe kumva dzina lake, koma simusamala.
3. Chikhalidwe chasintha, mwakhala wochepetsetsa komanso wokoma mtima - aliyense akhale wabwino monga iwe.
4. Zolingalira zonse ndizo za iye yekha, choncho kulingalira pazinthu zina ndizovuta - kuphunzira ndi ntchito zimayamba kuvutika ndi khalidweli. Mwa njira, maganizo samasulidwa usana ndi usiku, kotero zimakhalanso zovuta kugona. Munthu wokhumudwa kwambiri akhoza kuiwala za chakudya.
5. Poyamba, chisamaliro chapadera sichinaperekedwe kwa mawonekedwe, koma tsopano mumasankha zinthu zogwirira ntchito zogulira zovala kwa maola ambiri, ganizirani tsitsi lanu ndi kupanga, ndipo ngakhale mutsatire mwakhama pamaso pake.
6. Iye amakondwera kwambiri ndi inu kuti mutembenuzire kukhala wofufuzira - mukasonkhanitsa zonse zomwe zilipo ponena za iye, mumayamba kukhala ndi chidwi ndi zokondweretsa zake, kotero kuti pali mitu yamba, nthawi yoti mukumane.

Kodi mungamvetse bwanji chikondi kapena chikondi?

Ndikuganiza, kunena kuti chikondi ndi chikondi, malingaliro osiyana sali ofunika, kotero zonse zimadziwika. Koma momwe mungamvetsetse kuti mumakondadi munthu, kodi chikondi chimenechi si chikondi?

1. Chizindikiro chachikulu cha chikondi ndi kusowa kwa chiwerengero, kukhumba kupereka ndi kupereka zambiri, ngati wokondedwa wanga akadali bwino. Okonda akufuna kulandira, ndipo okonda amayesa kupatsana wina ndi mnzake.
2. Okonda nthawi zambiri samawona zolakwitsa wina ndi mzake, okonda amadziwa za iwo, koma osatsutsa, kuvomereza munthuyo momwe aliri.
3. Chikondi sichikhoza kulekerera kupatukana, koma chikondi chikhoza kudikira.
4. Okonda sakuthawa mavuto, koma awathetsa pamodzi. Chikondi, komabe, chimakonda kutseka maso anu ku chirichonse.
5. Okonda amayamba kuganiza m'magulu ena, chilankhulo "I" chikuwonjezeredwa ndi mawu oti "ife", chifukwa chakuti lingaliro la kukhalapo pokhapokha silingalekerere.
6. Mutha kugwa m'chikondi komanso angapo panthawi imodzimodzi, koma kukonda kwenikweni.
7. Mukhoza kukondana patatha mphindi zingapo za chibwenzi, nthawi zina chabe mawu angapo. Mwachikondi sizichitika mwanjira imeneyo, zimasowa nthawi komanso zazikulu. Zimayenera kumvetsa ndi kulandira munthu.
8. Chikondi chimayambira kusakayikira, kukaikira, ndi okonda omwe amakayikirana, osakhulupirira chilichonse. Okonda amadziwa kuti akufunikira wina ndi mzake. Palibe chifukwa chokayika mu chikondi.

Chikondi kapena chizoloŵezi?

Chabwino, taphunzira kusiyanitsa chikondi ndi chikondi, koma pali funso limodzi lomwe nthawi zambiri limawavutitsa akazi. Zikumveka ngati izi: "Ndikumvetsetsa bwanji kuti ndimakonda kapena ndi chizolowezi chokha?" Kumbali imodzi, chirichonse chimakhala chosavuta, ngati mutayendera ndi maganizo monga "Sindikumvetsa - chikondi kapena ayi," ndiye kuti palibe chikondi pano ndipo sichimva. Ndi nkhani ina ngati ubalewu wakhala ukuchitika kwa nthawi yayitali, zachilendo zadutsa, moto uli m'maso, ndipo zakhala zikukayikitsa, ngakhale kuti kumverera kumeneku kwakhala kwakukulu. Pano, popanda kukhala ndi chidwi chokhalitsa komanso chosasangalatsa sangathe kuchita. Nazi malo ochepa omwe ayenera "kukumba."

1. Kodi mumakondwera kumuchitira chinachake? Kapena kodi chifukwa chakuti mwakhala mukuzoloŵera nkhaniyi?
2. Kodi mumakhumudwitsidwa ndi zizoloŵezi zake zambiri mwakuti ndinu wokonzeka kupanga chisokonezo chifukwa cha izi?
3. Mumakonda kuyankha mosiyana ndi chirichonse "inde, wokondedwa," m'malo mokangana pa chinachake?
4. Kodi nonse awiri muli ndi zinsinsi? Ngakhale kuti ndi ovuta kutchula ndi zinsinsi, nonse mwa inu simukukondana ndi bizinesi.
5. Kodi mumakonda kumacheza ndi anzanu, kuntchito kapena nokha pamaso pa TV, ndipo osati naye?