Pachifukwa chilichonse, pali kusiyana, nthawi zonse zopweteka komanso kumangoganizira za kudzidalira . Ndipo ngakhale abwenziwo atagwirizanirana ndi kukhalabe mabwenzi, izi sizikutanthauza kuzunza maganizo ndi kuzunzidwa. Momwe mungalekerere maubwenzi akale ndikusiya kudandaula, zidzanenedwa m'nkhaniyi.
Momwe mungalolere kupita ku maubwenzi apitalo ponena za psychology?
Choyamba, muyenera kusiya kudzudzula nokha, kukhululukira zolakwa ndi zomwe mungachite. Kukulitsa kudzimva ndi kudzipweteka mumtima mwanu, mungathe kupitiriza kupweteka. Ndipo ngati mukuyang'ana pa mkhalidwe wa munthu waufulu ndi wokhutira, mukhoza kumvetsetsa kuti maubwenzi amenewa adabweretsa zochitika zabwino, amaphunzitsa zambiri, ndibwino kuti iwo anali, chifukwa si aliyense amene angakhale ndi chimwemwe chenicheni m'moyo.
Kufunsa momwe mungalekerere maubwenzi apitalo, nkofunikira kusiya kuwamatira. Kukhala ndi moyo wakale, timatseka chitseko cha mtsogolo. Chirichonse chomwe chimakumbutsa za wokondedwa chiyenera kuchotsedwa kuwona, ndi chifukwa chake munthu sayenera kuvomereza ubwenzi ngati wina akuwona zoyamba kapena zovuta kale. Ndi bwino kupita kwinakwake kwa kanthawi, ndipo nthawi zina ndi bwino kuganizira njira yosamukira ku mzinda wina kapena chigawo china. Poganizira za momwe mungalekerere kugonana ndikusiya kukhumudwa, simuyenera kudziletsa nokha kumverera. Maganizo onse okhudzidwa, monga mkwiyo, kupsinjika maganizo, kukhumudwa kumafunika kuthandizidwa kuti awathetse, ndi kuchepetsa nthawiyi, kusinkhasinkha ndi zosangalatsa zatsopano zidzakuthandizira.
Pokhala ndi chidwi ndi momwe mungalekerere maubwenzi akale, ndikofunikira kutenga malingaliro anu ndi nthawi ndi china chake: kulembetsa maphunziro a chinenero china, kuyamba kuvina , ndi zina zotero. Ndipo ngakhale ngati kukumbukira kwa ubale wakale sikupita kulikonse, iwo adzakhala gawo lawo. Munthu adzakhala nawo, ndipo akadzayanjanitsidwa, mtendere udzabwera.