Kodi polyamory ndi chikhalidwe chatsopano cha ubale kapena tchimo?

Polyamory (polyamory) ndi mawu atsopano omwe anthu omwe sakhutira ndi mgwirizano wa chikhalidwe cha "amai" amasonyeza maubwenzi awo. Malinga ndi mafanizi ambiri a polyamory, maubwenzi otseguka oterewa amathandizira kukula kwa moyo, ndikupangitsa kukhala osiyana komanso osangalatsa.

Polyamory - ndi chiyani?

Malingana ndi Brandon Wade, wolemba malo kuti "aganizire poyera", polyamory ndi mawonekedwe a "kusakhulupirika kwa makhalidwe" kwa anthu omwe saganizira kuti kugonana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi kumakhala chitsanzo choyanjana. Zomwe zikuluzikulu za polyamory ndizoona mtima, kuzindikira ndi kutseguka. Wokondedwayo sayenera kuvutika chifukwa cha kukhalapo kwa ena omwe ali nawo pachibwenzi cha anthu awiri, anthu. Chiwerengero cha maukwati a polyamorous ndi aakulu kwambiri, ndipo chiŵerengero chokha cha okhudzidwa nawo, mawonekedwe a maubwenzi awo, njira ya moyo imadalira ophunzira.

Polyamory iyenera kukhala yosiyana ndi maganizo monga chiwonetsero, kusakhulupirika. Ndi chigololo cha wina wa abwenzi, chachiwiri chimavutika, chomwe sichigwirizana ndi lamulo lalikulu la polyamory. Nthawi yayitali ndi mitala, zomwe zikutanthauza mtundu wina waukwati umene mwamuna kapena mkazi akhoza kukhala ndi abwenzi ambiri omwe sagonana nawo (mitala ndi polyandry). Polyamory siimachepetsa izi - pagulu la anthu omwe akukhudzidwa, pakhoza kukhala chiyanjano ndi kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Zambiri-mgwirizano - ndi chiyani?

Union polyamori (yogwirizana) ingakhale gulu kapena mfulu, yotseguka kapena yotsekedwa, yosakanikirana.

1. Mgwirizano wa gulu ndi mtundu wa banja lachibale omwe amatha kukhala ndi chibwenzi. Mabanja oterowo-achibale nthawi zina amatchedwa "Swedish".
2. Mgwirizano waulere ndi gulu la mapepala ambiri omwe sali okhudzana ndi wina ndi mzake.
3. Anthu ogwirizanitsa polyamory amatha kupeza malumikizowo angapo, nthawi yayitali kapena yaifupi.
4. M'ndende yotsekemera ya polyamore, iwo amakhalabe ndi chibwenzi ndi gulu losatha la anthu omwe akukhudzidwa, osasokonezedwa ndi kugwirizana.
5. Mu bungwe losakanikirana, imodzi mwa ndondomekoyi ikhoza kutsegulidwa kuti zithe kugwirizana, ndi zina - kumamatira ku zibwenzi zokhazikika.

Polyamory - maganizo

Kuchokera pamaganizo a maganizo, ubale wa polyamorous ndi woona mtima kusiyana ndi mitala kapena mgwirizano umene mmodzi wa iwo amachitira kuti asinthe mkaziyo. Zoona, kuwona mtima kumeneku kungachititse kusokonezeka kwa mantha ngati mmodzi wa omwe akukhudzidwa akugwirizana ndi kugonana kwaulere kuti akhalebe ndi chibwenzi ndi yemwe amamukonda. Kuonjezera apo, polyamory ndi yabwino kwa anthu omwe alibe ufulu wa maganizo a anthu, tk. anthu ambiri samavomereza.

Nthawi zina, polyamory ikhoza kukhala chipulumutso kwa munthu. Mwachitsanzo, ngati munthu sangathe kugonana ndi mwamuna mmodzi yekha ndipo ngati palibe chilolezo, mwamunayo amasintha nthawi zonse. Sami polyamory kaŵirikaŵiri amafotokozera chikhumbo chawo chosiyana mosiyana ndi iyeyo sangathe kupempha kuchokera kwa mmodzi mzake kusiyana kulikonse mu ubale ndi moyo wa kugonana.

Ndingathe kusiya polyamory?

Munthu yemwe sakonda polyamory mu chibwenzi, samangokana, koma ayenera kufotokoza izi kwa mnzake. Polyamory sakhulupirira zabodza ndi kubisika kwa choonadi, aliyense amene ali mu mgwirizano wotere ayenera kuzindikira ndi kuvomereza. Munthu amene amakonda ufulu wa chiwerewere ayenera kupeza achibale pambali, kapena kusiya polyamory chifukwa cha wokondedwa.

Polyamory - mabuku

Anthu odzitamandira akuwonjezeka kukhala amphona a mabuku, kuyambira ndi "olota" a Bertolucci.

1. K.A. Lembani, D. Easton "Makhalidwe a Kuwononga . " Bukuli likulankhula za chiyanjano cha chikondi. Cholinga chachikulu cha olemba a ntchito ndikutsimikizira kuti ubale waufulu sumapitanso patsogolo pa makhalidwe abwino.
2. D. Ebershof "Mkazi wa 19" . Bukhuli, lolembedwa mu mtundu wa woyang'anira, limafotokoza za kugwirizana kovuta pakati pa banja ndi banja lalikulu la a Mormon.
3. R. Merle "Malvil" . Ubale wachikondi waufulu mu ntchitoyi ikuwonekera kumbuyo kwa post-apocalypse.
4. M. Kundera "Kuunika kosawerengeka kwa Kukhala" . Ntchito yokongola ndi filosofi idzakhala yosangalatsa kwa wowerenga ndi chilakolako chotentha ndi chiwembu cholakwika. Ogonjetsa a bukuli amakhala miyoyo yawo, akuyendayenda mu labyrinth of perspective ndikuphunzira zapadera za matupi ndi miyoyo yawo.