M'dziko lolankhula Chingerezi, kawirikawiri zimakhala zoyenera kulumikiza mkazi, makamaka ngati ali ndi chikhalidwe chokwanira cha anthu. Mwachizoloŵezi, yemwe ndi dona, ife tikukamba za mkazi yemwe maonekedwe ake amamuyang'ana iye: Amuna amakoka, amakhala osamveka mwachidwi ndi chenjezo, ndipo amayi amamvetsera mawu onse ndi manja, akuyesera kuti asaphonye tsatanetsatane.
Makhalidwe a dona uyu
Mayi wachikulire yemwe anakulira m'banja losavuta, sizivuta kukhala dona , chifukwa atsikana oterewa amaleredwa kuyambira ali mwana. Amaphunzitsidwa kuyenda ndi kulankhula bwino, kumangokhala pamodzi, kusunga ulemu, komanso makhalidwe abwino. Mwa maonekedwe a mkazi, mwa kuika kwake, kutembenuzira mutu wake ndikuyang'ana, mungathe kunena ngati ali dona kapena ayi. Ponena za maonekedwe, mkaziyu sayenera kuvala malinga ndi mafashoni atsopano. Mmene zovala zake zimagwirira ntchito zimakhala zosavuta komanso zotsalira, zovala ndi zabwino komanso zomveka, zoyera komanso zoyera.
Zina mwa mikhalidwe ya mayi zimatha kudziwika:
- Kusunga nthawi. Iye samangokhala kwa mphindi zingapo, ndipo akakumana, adzapepesa chifukwa chachedwa.
- Kukhala wodekha ndi kufanana. Mkaziyo sangalole kuti asakwiyire, kuti akhale wonyansa kapena wonyenga kwa wina. Mumagulu ake mulibe mawu achipongwe, koma amatha kufotokozera momveka bwino maganizo ake kwa interlocutor popanda iwo.
- Ulemu. Mwinamwake, ichi ndi chinthu choyamba chimene chimasiyanitsa mayi weniweni.
- Kulingalira, kulemekeza ndi kudzichepetsa.
- Kupanda kukangana ndi kukondweretsa, koma panthawi yomweyi mkazi wotero sadzatsika mpaka kunyozedwa ndi kudzikuza.
Izi ndizo zikhalidwe zomwe zimasiyanitsa dona weniweni. Inde, pali zochepa m'dzikoli lero, chifukwa lero ndi mwambo wopita pamitu, kuwonetsera chuma chanu pawonetsero ndikudzitamandira pazomwe mukuchita, nthawi zina osayenerera.
Makhalidwe a mayi weniweni
Makhalidwe a mayi uyu ndi chitsanzo chabwino. Amayankhula mwakachetechete, osayesetsa kudziyesa yekha, koma amachititsa zotsatira zake: aliyense amayesa kumvetsera mawu ake, ngati kuti akutsutsana ndi matsenga ake, omwe amapangidwa kuchokera ku maonekedwe osiyana kwambiri - olemekezeka ndi okoma mtima onse, olemekezeka, okoma mtima, owona mtima ndi kuwona mtima.
Mkaziyo sasiya malamulo a khalidwe m'dera. Amagwiritsa ntchito mwanzeru alendo ndipo angathe kuyankhulana ndi aliyense, kaya ndi mfumu mwini kapena wogwira ntchito yosavuta. Sadzaika munthu pamtendere, sadzakhumudwitsa ndipo sadzatemberera, kuthetsa mphekesera za wina.