Ndi anthu ochepa omwe amadziwa kuti chidziwitso cha 10 peresenti chokha chimaperekedwa mwachinsinsi, pamene manja ndi chiwonetsero zingathe kutanthauzira zambiri. Ziwerengero zokhudzana ndi kulankhulana sizothandiza, koma ndi bwino kukumbukira kuti manja amathandiza kwambiri pakuyankhulana pakati pa anthu. Ndipo, chifukwa chake, muyenera kumvetsetsa momwe mungasamalire manja anu kuti akudziwe bwino.
Pali lingaliro lomwe lingaliro panthawi yokambirana, makamaka masabata 10 oyambirira, limapereka mpata wofufuza bwinobwino interlocutor. Ndipo mwadzidzidzi manja sagwirizana ndi mawu a munthuyo, chidziwitso chanu chimangoyamba kutulutsa, ndipo kugwiritsidwa ntchito pazokambirana kungakhudze, kaya munthuyo adzakondweretsa inu.
Chifukwa cha kufotokozera timalankhula momveka bwino, m'maganizo ndi kumvetsetsa ngakhale alendo, osadziŵa chinenerocho. Kulingalira pazokambirana za bizinesi, nayenso, kumachita mbali yofunikira, chifukwa nthawi zina zimadalira kuyankhulana kwa mabwenzi ogwira ntchito ndi mapeto ogwira ntchito.
Kusokonezeka kwa manja pamene mukuyankhula m'mayiko osiyanasiyana sikuli ndi tanthauzo limodzi. Mwachitsanzo, mphete yopangidwa ndi chala chachikulu ndi chiwerengero cha chiwerengero cha Amerika chimatanthauza kuvomereza kapena kuvomereza "ok", pamene French amatanthauza zero, ndipo Japanese ali ndi ndalama. Ku France ndi m'mayiko olankhula Chirasha, chidindo chachindunji chophatikizidwa ku kachisi chikutsimikizira kuti ndi chopusa, ndipo ku Holland, mmalo mwake, kumatanthauza kupezeka kwa nzeru. Ndipo chiyanjano cha aliyense chokonda, khalani osamala, Agiriki adzawona ngati chonyansa!
Ndikoyenera kukumbukira kamphindi kamodzi pamene munthu ali ndi maganizo opweteka kwambiri , zimakhala zovuta kuti apereke malingaliro popanda zochitika zonse-zowonongeka, ndipo kugwiritsidwa ntchito kotereku kumatha kudziwa zambiri zokhudza tanthauzo la chidziwitso cha munthu.
Kwa nthawi yaitali, akatswiri a maganizo a anthu akhala akuphunzira zochitika za anthu, chifukwa momwe machitidwe angakhazikitsire anthu, koma kuti aphunzire kuwerenga "ena", pali mabuku ambiri ndi magwero ena a mitundu yonse.
Malamulo a chinenero chamanja
Ambiri akukhudzidwa ndi lingaliro la ulamuliro wa kugonana, koma ndikofunikira kudziwa ngati alipo. Ndipotu, pali malamulo otsatirawa:
- Zilibe kanthu, ndipo palibe chomwe chikuchitika.
- Sungani manja anu ndi mapazi anu.
- Apanso, samalirani manja. Phunzitsani kusunga manja anu nthawi zonse ndi kumabweretsa zovuta.
- Pewani mavuto aakulu.
- Yang'anirani maso a interlocutor. Kupita kumaso akuyang'ana kumatha kuthetsa mavuto onse.
- Kugwirana chanza. Siziyenera kukhala zofewa kapena zovuta, koma zamphamvu komanso zochepa.
Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, kumbukirani kuti kulongosola bwino kumeneku kudzakuthandizani kuti mukhale okondweretsa ena ndikukwaniritsa zolinga zanu.
Musaiwale kuti malingaliro osankhidwa bwino osalankhulana mawu amatha pa msinkhu wosadziwika kuti mudziwe nokha.