Ngati mukufuna kukhala mkazi wokondwa, choyamba muyenera kudziwa chomwe chimayambitsa chisangalalo chanu. Pambuyo pake, lingaliro la chimwemwe mwa aliyense - wina ali ndi banja, wina ali ndi chuma chambiri, wina ali ndi kudzizindikira, ndi zina zotero. Kukhala wosangalala ndi kosavuta komanso kovuta pa nthawi yomweyo. Anthu amasiku ano amagwiritsidwa ntchito poyera ndi kudandaula, kutembenuza moyo wawo kukhala tsoka. Aliyense akuthamangira mwachimwemwe, akuiwala kuti nthawi zonse imakhala mwa ife - mu bizinesi yomwe mumaikonda kwambiri, anthu okondedwa, zolinga ndi chitukuko. Momwe mungakhalire osangalala kwambiri? Tiyeni tiyesere kuzilingalira izi pamodzi.
Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale osangalala m'banja?
Magaziniyi imafuna kusanthula mozama, chifukwa ikhoza kudalira pa zifukwa zambiri. Mungathe kukhala ndi udindo pakumverera kwanu, koma osati kwa ena. Aliyense wa iwo amakhala ndi maudindo. Mkazi sayenera kudzipereka yekha ku ukwati. Iyenera kukhala ndi zofuna zake, zosangalatsa, chitukuko. Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti udziwe nokha ndipo tsiku lililonse umakhala wangwiro komanso wabwino.
Momwe mungakhalire mkazi wokondwa? Mkazi ayenera kudziyang'anira yekha ndi maonekedwe ake. Muyenera kukhala osangalatsa pa theka lanu lachiwiri. Zidzakhala bwino ngati mutasunthira limodzi ku cholinga chimodzi. Ngati mavuto amayamba m'banja, ndikofunikira kuti muyankhule za izi ndi mwamuna wanu. Ngati munthuyu amakukondani, adzachita zonse kuti apulumutse banja (kupatulapo, ndithudi, tikukamba za zofuna zakumwamba). Ngati, ngakhale mutayesetsa, mwamunayo akupitirirabe, otmazyvaetsya ndipo pafupipafupi sakuwona vuto, muyenera kuganizira za ubale weniweni ndi iye. Ndipo ngati mutasankha kuchoka, mwina munthuyu angaganizire mozama za kunyalanyaza kwake ndipo akufuna kukubwezerani. Ndiyeno pangani chisankho kwa inu nokha.
Kodi mungatani kuti musangalale mutatha kusudzulana?
Amayi ambiri amatha kusudzulana kwambiri. Mndandanda wa mikangano yaitali ya banja, nthawi zina yokhala ndi zaka zambiri, pamapeto pake imatha. Nthawi yoyamba idzakhala yovuta kubwezeretsa, koma zidzakuthandizani kumvetsetsa nokha ndi zikhumbo zanu. Muli ndi mwayi wochita ndi munthu, ngakhale kuti sakulephera, koma tsopano mukudziwa zomwe mukufunikira ndi momwe muyenera kukhalira. Poyamba yesani kudzipereka nokha. Chitani chinachake chatsopano. Lowani masukulu kapena masukulu. Ndikofunika kubweretsa mitundu yowala kwambiri m'moyo wanu. Lolani tsiku lirilonse la moyo wanu kukhala lobala! Ndikhulupirire, ngati mumayendetsa moyo wokhutira, muyende, mudziwe bwino anthu ambiri okondweretsa, ndithudi mudzakumana ndi mnzanu weniweni.
Kodi mkazi wosakwatira angakhale bwanji wosangalala?
Akazi ambiri amalemedwa kwambiri ndi kusungulumwa , pamene mukufuna chikondi, chikondi ndi kutentha, ndi kuzungulira inu muli zinthu zowopsya komanso zoyera tsiku ndi tsiku. Yesetsani kukhala osungulumwa. Mwina, poyamba sichidzakhala chophweka, koma potsiriza mudzatha kuphunzira kusangalala ndi moyo ndi kusintha. Yesetsani kukhala ndi nthawi yochuluka ndi anzanu, perekani zokondweretsa zanu, yang'anani zinthu zatsopano. Ganizirani za mtundu wanji wa amuna omwe mumakonda? Ngati atakhala wopindulitsa ndi wotetezeka, lembani masemina a bizinesi. Ndithudi mudzakumana ndi anthu ambiri okondweretsa ndikupeza moyo wanu wapamtima kumeneko. Kumbukirani kuti chinthu chachikulu mu moyo ndi chitukuko. Zonsezo zidzawonekera, mwamsanga mukakhala mukugwirizana ndi inu nokha
Momwe mungakhalire okondwa mu chikondi?
Ngati mukufuna chikondi chosangalatsa ndi chowonadi, muyenera kudziwa zotsatirazi. Kuti mukhale mgwirizano wogwirizana, nkofunikira kuti anthu onse akhale okhwima. Sikuti ndi za msinkhu, koma makamaka za kukhoza kutenga udindo, kumvetsetsa ndi kumudziwa mnzanuyo, pangani zisankho zabwino. Ngati munthu mmodzi ali pawiri ali mwana, chibwenzicho chidzawonongeka. Ichi ndi vuto la mabanja ambiri amakono. Choncho ndikofunikira kuti tizipanga ndi kudzigwira tokha, kupitirizabe kukhala ndi makhalidwe abwino ndikupeza zatsopano.