Mkazi yemwe amadziwa kukonda mwamuna ndi kupindula mtima wake ali ndi ubwino wambiri: amapeza mosavuta mnzanu m'moyo, popanda zovuta kukwera payekha la ntchito. Choncho, nthumwi iliyonse ya kugonana yofooka iyenera kukhala yodziwa kupusitsa. Kuwombera munthu kungakhale maonekedwe abwino, chifukwa ichi ndi chinthu choyamba chomwe ambiri a iwo amamvetsera . Koma khalidwe lolondola pa nkhaniyi limakhala ndi gawo lalikulu. Tidzafotokozanso zovuta zonsezi.
Kodi mkazi angagwire bwanji mwamuna?
- Kuoneka kosasangalatsa. Monga ngati anthu sananene kuti makhalidwe awo auzimu amawakopera kumbali ina, psychology yawo imatsutsa mosiyana. Konzani maonekedwe osadziwika, tsitsi lovala ndi zovala zabwino zimapanga chithunzi chomwe chingakope chidwi. Koma kudzikweza kwa msungwana ndi kusowa kwa chisamaliro ndi zinthu zomwe zidzasokoneza munthu aliyense.
- Zomwe mungagwirizane ndi munthu zingathe kuuzidwa kwa nthawi yaitali: ndizofewetsa uzimu ndi kudzichepetsa, kusangalatsa komanso moyo wabwino. Ndiponso, kupambana ndi kukhutira ndizo makhalidwe omwe amakopeka amuna.
- Msungwana yemwe akufuna kutero ayenera kukhala wodabwitsa komanso wosiyana. Lero akhoza kukhala wodzichepetsa, ndipo mawa akukondana ndi kusewera.
- Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndi chida chachikulu chomwe chingathandize kuti musagonana.
- Kusintha ndi nzeru. Kuti agonjetse munthu yemwe ali ndi chidziwitso chakuya, wina ayenera kumangika ndikukhazikitsa yekha.
- Zimatanthauzanso kuti amuna amakonda makutu. Chifukwa chake, mkazi aliyense ayenera kudziwa mau oti agwire munthu. Malingana ndi zofukufukuzo, zambiri zimakhala ngati akazi amawatcha odalirika, amphamvu, owolowa manja komanso opusa. Kuti mukope, mutha kugwiritsa ntchito mawu ndi mawu awa. Ndikofunika kunena moona mtima, kuchokera pansi pamtima. Kotero kuti munthuyo samakayikira zowona za mawu awa.
Momwe mungamvetsere zomwe munthu amamangirira?
Pali zizindikiro zomwe munthu angaweruze chidwi cha mwamuna kwa mkazi:
- kuyitana nthawi zonse, mauthenga;
- iye akuitanira kuti ayende, kuyendera;
- amapereka mphatso popanda chifukwa;
- amayesera kupanga chidwi chabwino pa mkazi.