Wotopa kumvetsera ndemanga za momwe iwe uliri woipa? Ndiye pali njira ziwiri zowonekera - kubudula makutu anu kapena kuganiza ngati mungasinthe khalidwe lanu ndi momwe mungachitire.
Kodi n'zotheka kusintha khalidwe?
Kuti muwone ngati mungasinthe khalidwe lanu, muyenera kuyamba kutanthauzira mawu awa. Kuchokera ku Chigriki, liwu lakuti "khalidwe" limamasuliridwa ngati chizindikiro. Ndipo ndithudi, lingaliro ili likuphatikizapo makhalidwe omwe amadziwonetsera okha mwa zizoloŵezi za munthu, zochita zake mmaganizo osiyanasiyana ndi maganizo a munthu ku dziko lozungulira. Komanso, khalidweli limapangidwa nthawi zonse, mphamvu zake zimapangidwa ndi zinthu zosiyanasiyana - zaka, maphunziro, ntchito, malo okhalamo, ndi zina zotero. Ndicho chifukwa chake nthawi zina sitidziwa abwenzi akusukulu omwe adalowa m'malo ena - munthu wasintha, khalidwe lake ndi njira yolankhulirana zakhala zosiyana. Koma ngati ife tikutsogoleredwa ndi chilengedwe, ndiye kodi ife tingasinthe tokha, tikungofuna izo? Akatswiri a zamaganizo amati ndizotheka kukwaniritsa, koma ngati munthu akufunadi kusintha kotere. Apo ayi, ziribe kanthu momwe mukuyesera, chikhalidwecho sichidzapambana.
Mungasinthe bwanji khalidwe lanu?
Popeza chikhalidwe cha munthu chimapangidwira moyo wake wonse, ndizofunikira kusintha ntchito yake, ngakhale kuti si yosavuta ngati ikuwonekera poyamba. Zidzakhala zopindulitsa ndi kupirira kwakukulu kuti mutengere mtima mwamsanga ndi kuleza mtima. Choyamba, chinthu choyamba kuchita ndikuti "Ndikufuna kusintha khalidwe langa!" Ndipo mumvetsetse chifukwa chake mumasinthira. Ndi chinthu chimodzi ngati mutalangizidwa kuti musinthe khalidwe mwamsanga, ndikufotokozerani kuti msungwana wosagwirizana ndi okhawo amabweretsa mavuto. Koma panthawi imodzimodziyo simukukumana ndi mavuto ndipo mumakhala mu clover. Ndipo mosiyana kwambiri, ngati inu mukumvetsa kuti mu mavuto onse omwe akugwerani pa inu posachedwa, khalidwe lanu loipa ndilo kulakwitsa. Pachiyambi choyamba, phindu lake lenileni liyenera kutetezedwa, ndipo chikhalidwe chachiwiri chimafunika kusintha machitidwe ndi zizoloŵezi.
Inde, n'zosatheka kusintha nthawi yomweyo, zimatenga nthawi kuti muzidzigwira nokha. Ndipo kudzikonza nokha kunali kosavuta, muyenera kudziwa nokha kutsogolo kwa ntchitoyo. Kuti muchite izi, lembani pa pepala zinthu zonse za khalidwe lanu zomwe mukufuna kusintha. Ndiyeno sankhani khalidwe loipitsitsa la khalidwe lanu, pamwamba pa kukonza kumene mungagwire ntchito poyamba. Tsopano tifunikira tsatanetsatane momwe mzerewu ukuwonetseredwa, mavuto omwe amadza chifukwa cha zochita zoipa.
Mungasinthe bwanji makhalidwe anu? Mudziko pali kusiyana kwa chirichonse: zabwino-zoipa, pamwamba-pansi, kumpoto-kumwera, ndi zina zotero. Kotero ndi khalidwe lathu, pa chinthu chilichonse choipa chomwe mungapeze mbali yabwino. Kotero muyenera kuyesetsa kuti musinthe mbali zanu zoipa ndi zabwino. Choncho, papepala lomweli, lembani momwe mungayankhire tsopano kapena izi. Mwachitsanzo, mukuganiza kuti vuto lanu lalikulu ndilo kupsa mtima. Fotokozani nkhani yomaliza, pamene khalidwe lachikhalidwe ili lakutsitsa. Ndipo momwe zinalili zofunika kuthetsa vutoli. Pambuyo polemba malemba pamutu, mutha kunena mokweza mawu, chinthu chachikulu sichikupatsani
Chitanipo m'moyo, phunzirani kufufuza zomwe zikuchitika ndikudzigwira nokha pa nthawi yowonetsera zofunikira za khalidwelo. Musachite mantha, ngati palibe chimene chikuchitika mwakamodzi, palibe chowopsya, chinthu chachikulu sikuti mubwerere ndikupitiriza kugwira ntchito nokha. Pamene chinthu chimodzi chosagonjetsedwa chikugonjetsedwa, pitirizani ku yotsatira. Chinthu chachikulu sikuti dikirani nthawi yabwino, kulonjeza kuyambitsa chirichonse Lolemba kapena pambuyo pa tchuthi, koma ayambe kuchita nthawi yomweyo. Ndikuthamangitsani nokha malingaliro oipa monga "Ndine wofooka kwambiri, sindingathe kuchita chirichonse," chifukwa si choncho, aliyense akhoza kusintha, mumangofunikira.