Matenda a odwala nthawi zonse amayamba msinkhu ndipo nthawi zambiri samadziwika ndi munthu mwiniyo. Amangodzipereka kuti asakhale ndi mwayi nkomwe: kuchotsedwa ntchito, kuperekedwa ndi abwenzi, atasiyidwa ndi okondedwa ake. Komabe, nkofunika kuti muthe kuyang'ana choonadi: pokhapokha mutadziwa kuti muli ndi vutoli, mukhoza kuligonjetsa.
Psychology: matenda a victim
Anthu otere akhoza kukhala pakati pa akazi ndi amuna. Poyamba, iwo ndi abwino kwambiri, anthu abwino ndithu, koma m'moyo alibe mwayi: anzako amasiya ntchito zonse, amzanga amangochita zomwe akupempha "zokoma", akuluakulu samayamikira khama. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, anthu oterewa sali owala, yesetsani kuti asayime pakati pa anthu, amalankhula mwakachetechete, amavomereza mosavuta, kutsutsana, ndipo ngakhale ngati mkangano sukuchitika kunja kwa iwo, iwo angakonde kupepesa.
Anthu amamva kuti sangathe kudziimira okha, ndipo pang'onopang'ono ayamba kuzigwiritsa ntchito. Pali matenda a chibwenzi ndi ogwira nawo ntchito, ndi "abwenzi", komanso ndi munthu wokondedwayo.
Zifukwa, monga lamulo, zimakhala muubwana: ndi "ana osakwatiwa" omwe sanamvere makolo, omwe nthawi zonse anali wachiwiri pambuyo pa mbale kapena mlongo amene amagwiritsidwa ntchito kukhala ndi phindu lochepa kusiyana ndi wina. Iwo awona kuyambira ubwana ngati chidziwitso kwa iwo eni monga munthu wachiwiri, chifukwa cha zomwe iwo ali nacho chikhutiro: "Ine ndine munthu wachiwiri, sindikuyenerera bwino." Zirizonse zomwe zikhulupiliro, moyo nthawi zonse umatsimikiziranso, ngati munthuyo sakudziwa kuti ali wokoma mtima komanso wachifundo komanso amatembenukira kwa iwo omwe ali okonzeka kuchigwiritsa ntchito.
Kodi mungachotse bwanji vutoli?
Kuti mugonjetse matenda a wogwidwa, mukusowa thandizo la wothandizira. Koma ngati mukuvutika kwambiri ndi zochitikazi, kambiranani chifunirocho ndi chiwongolero ndikuyesera nokha:
- Yang'anirani kuzipambana zanu, lembani izo mu zolemba.
- Samalani zinthu zanu zabwino, lembani iwo.
- Tsiku lililonse mumadziuza nokha kuti: "Ndine munthu wabwino kwambiri, woyenera kuchita zabwino kwambiri, ndipo maganizo anga ayenera kuganiziridwa."
- Musachite chilichonse chimene simukuchifuna - koma kuthandizira, osati zokonda.
- Pewani maganizo olakwika pa inu nokha, samalirani zomwe zili zabwino mwa inu.
Sungani malingaliro anu masiku 15-20, ndipo chidzakhala chizolowezi. Pang'onopang'ono, mudzasintha mtundu wa khalidwe, ndipo simudzakhalanso wozunzidwa. Dziwani izi sikokwanira kuziwerenga, ziyenera kuchitika tsiku ndi tsiku. Ngati simungathe kuchita nawo nokha. Adilesi kwa katswiri wa maganizo.