Zauzimu ndi zakuthupi

Njira yaikulu yodzidzimvera kwa munthu ndizofunikira zauzimu komanso zakuthupi. Kuyambira kubadwa kwa mwana, maziko a tsogolo lake ayamba kupanga. Mlengalenga m'banja, zochitika zonsezi, zonsezi zimakhudza kwambiri mapangidwe.

Tsiku ndi tsiku zinthu zofunikira pamoyo zimakhala zofunikira kwambiri, zimakhumudwitsa, kumverera, ndi zochitika kumbuyo. Chilengedwe nthawi zina sichikupatsani chisankho, monga aliyense amayesera kuyang'ana "ngati chithunzi," pokhala m'nyumba yabwino ndikukhala ndi banki. Potsata zotsatirazi, munthu amakumbukira konse chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pa kukhala mumtima ndi moyo. Kusapeza mgwirizano kuti mukwaniritse chimwemwe sikungatheke, popeza pali miyandamiyanda ya zitsanzo zopambana, koma anthu osasangalala.

Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale ogwirizana?

Kuti mupeze zinthu zonse zakuthupi ndi zauzimu mumayenera kusankha chomwe chili chofunika kwambiri kwa inu, ndi chomwe chiribe chofunikira pamoyo.

Mu psychology, pali zochitika zosavuta zosavuta zomwe zidzakuthandizira kukhazikitsa zinthu zauzimu ndi zakuthupi za munthu ndikuwonekeratu momveka bwino mavuto a kudzizindikira. Kwa iye muyenera kutenga pepala ndikuyankha moona mtima mafunso awa:

1. Tangoganizani kuti moyo udzasokonezedwa patapita zaka 15. Ganizirani zomwe mukufuna kuchita panthawiyi? Kodi mukufuna kuti mulandire tsiku lotsiriza liti?
2. Tsopano kuchepetsa nthawi kwa zaka zisanu. Kodi ndizatsopano ziti zomwe mukufuna kuchita, ndipo mungaleke kuchita chiyani?
3. Nthawi yochepa ya moyo ndi chaka chimodzi chokha. Ndibwino bwanji kuti mukhale moyo? Kodi ndiyenera kusiya chiyani?
4. Chomvetsa chisoni kwambiri. Simuliponso. Nchiyani chomwe chalembedwa mu gawo la obituary yanu? Ndinu ndani?

Tsopano werengani mosamala zomwe mwalemba ndikulemba zogwirizana.

Kusiyana pakati pa zinthu zauzimu ndi zakuthupi

Maganizo ndi malingaliro samachepetsera molingana ndi chiwerengero cha anthu omwe ali nawo, mosiyana ndi katundu. Zofunikira zauzimu sizifanana ndi zakuthupi mwazimene sizikunyalanyaza pakamwa, koma zimakhala mbali ya dziko lapansi la munthu, motero zimamulemeretsa.