Momwe mungamvetsetse zomwe amuna amakonda pa kugonana? Mmodzi ndi mnzanu yemweyo angadalire ndi maganizo akuti "muli pabedi ngati chipika" kapena "mungadziwe bwanji momwe mungachitire zimenezi, chitani ngati hule." Chabwino, amuna amenewo amakonda kugonana - wokondana kapena wamanyazi, kodi zolengedwa zodabwitsazi zimafunikira chiyani? Zirizonse zomwe zinali, zimadziwika kuti amuna ndi anyamata osiyana pazogonana ndi osiyana, choncho, njira ya munthu aliyense iyenera kuyang'anidwa payekha. Koma pali zizoloŵezi zomwe zimawonekera ndi anthu onse ogonana kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, mwamuna yemwe mumakonda amakonda kugonana, onse amodzi amavomerezana ndi izi.
Amuna okonda kugonana
Kodi mukuganiza kuti anyamata amakonda kugonana: kulamulira njira kapena kuyembekezera chinachake monga chonchi? Kodi simukudziwa? Kotero iwo sakudziwa, ndipo onse awiri amakonda izo, komabe amasankha kukhala chinthu chofunikira kwambiri kwa amuna ogonana nthawi zambiri, zomwe zimatsimikiziridwa ndi chiwerengero cha zomwe mumazikonda.
- Malo oyamba adatengedwa ndi kachitidwe kogwiritsa ntchito, amuna amakonda kukhala kumbuyo kwa wokondedwa kwambiri. Apa chirichonse chikulamuliridwa ndi munthu, mwinamwake ndi chifukwa chake zoterezo zimakhala zotchuka ndi amuna ambiri.
- Wachiwiri wotchuka kwambiri ndiwo umishonale. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti amasankhidwa ndi amuna omwe amasamala za wokondedwa wawo.
- Koma m'malo mwachitatu ndi malo a wokwera. Amuna athu aulesi nthawi zambiri saganizira kupumula ndikusangalala ndi thupi lachikazi, zilakolako zonsezi zimatheka kwambiri.
Amuna amakonda chiyani pa kugonana?
- Poganizira zomwe zingadabwe ndi wokondedwayo pa kugonana, amayi nthawi zambiri amatha kudziwa zambiri zokhudza zovuta, masewera olimbitsa thupi komanso masewero owonetsera. Ndipo moyenerera, munthu aliyense amafuna zosiyana. Ndipo mwina simungafunire phunziro losangalatsa, monga kugonana, kukhala chizoloŵezi. Kotero, kutali ndi tsankho ndi manyazi, kuyesa, perekani chinachake chatsopano, avomereze maganizo a mnzanuyo. Komabe, sikuli koyenera kuvomereza, ngati simukufuna kuchita chinachake, musati mupereke njira ina. Apo ayi, mwamuna angaganize kuti sakusamala za inu, chifukwa amafuna kuti azigonana osati yekha, akufuna kukukondweretsa.
- Kodi amuna amakonda bwanji kugonana, pamene malingaliro awo onse amakumana ndi chidwi, kapena mukakhala ndi mtsikana kuti atenge pang'ono? Mwina mungadabwe, koma anthu ena amakonda kuthamanga mobwerezabwereza, choncho siletsedwa kukana pang'ono. Koma kumbukirani, mawu ofunika ndi pang'ono.
- Koma funso losavuta ndilo, kodi pafupifupi anyamata onse akugonana? Kulongosola molunjika, kugonana pamlomo, amayamika onse omwe akuimira gawo labwino la umunthu. Koma iwo amakonda izo mochuluka, pamene mkazi amasangalala nacho, kwa mwamuna ichi ndi chitsimikizo chakuti mumamukonda ndi kuvomereza chirichonse.
- Kodi mukuganiza kuti mukufuna kukhala ofunikira okha? Mwamuna wanu akufuna izo, nayenso. Kotero musaiwale kuti muyambe masewera achikondi nokha, muuzeni okondedwa anu,
kuti inu mukufuna, ndi apa ndi tsopano. Ngati woyambitsa kugonana ndi munthu yekha, angasankhe kuti mu ndondomekoyi simukufuna, ndipo mumalolera kugonana ndi iye kokha chifukwa choti akukupatsani inu, kapena chifukwa china. - Musakhale wamanyazi pa bedi, kapena chiwerengero chopanda ungwiro, kapena mosayembekezereka mwazindikira. Mwachilakolako chokwanira, mwamunayo sangachite chidwi ndi zinthu zazing'ono izi, ndizofunika kwambiri kwa iye kuti mukhale omasuka kwa iye, kuti mumupatse ndi chilakolako chonse.
- Ndipo ndithudi, sitiyenera kuiwala kuti amuna ngati zithunzi zokongola, ndipo ngati "chithunzi" chikununkhiza bwino, ndibwino kwambiri. Chinthu chachikulu chofuna kununkhiza chimene iye amachikonda ndipo sichimafika patali kwambiri ndi mafuta onunkhira, mumangofunika sitima yowonetsera yomwe imapangitsa wokondedwa wanu kuti ayambe. Ndipo "chithunzithunzi", ndiye kuti maselo achikondi amayamba kuwathandiza, ndipo ndibwino kuti musankhe ndi munthu wanu, ndikuuzeni zomwe akufuna kuti akuwoneni.