Aliyense ali ndi chosowa cholankhulana. Koma aliyense ali nacho chosowachi chikuwonetseredwa mu madigiri osiyanasiyana. Pamodzi ndi kuyankhulana, munthu akuchita zomwe nthawi zambiri zimakhala zofunikira. Kukula, munthu amagwiritsa ntchito mabodza kwa zolinga zosiyanasiyana mobwerezabwereza kuposa momwe angaganizire ali mwana.
Mofanana, munthu aliyense amafuna kudziwa momwe angazindikire bodza. Poyamba, ndizovuta kudziwa ngati munthu akunama kapena ayi. Kodi n'zotheka kwa anthu omwe apatsidwa mphatso yapadera kwa kilomita kuti awone abodza. Koma simungadzilole kuti mumanyengedwe, ndipo pazimenezi muyenera kudziwa malamulo angapo omwe amakuphunzitsani m'mene mungazindikire bodza m'maso mwanu.
Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji kuzindikira bodza?
Kukwanitsa kuzindikira mabodza ndi luso lothandiza kwambiri, kuteteza kupezeka kwachinyengo. Asayansi amasiku ano amalimbikitsa kuti akhale ndi luso loona zonyenga, kusiya maganizo osagwirizana. Pambuyo pa zonse, zakhala zikutsimikiziridwa kwa nthawi yaitali, kuwonetseredwa kwa mantha mumtumiki wanu, kuthamanga kwa maso sizikutanthauza kuti mukuchita ndi wabodza. Njira yothandiza kwambiri ndikumangokhulupirira mnzanuyo mothandizidwa ndi funso. Tsatirani momwe mumayankhira mofulumira kwa wothandizira. Ngati nthawi yayitali yowonjezera, nthawi zambiri mumakhala wabodza.
Njira yina yosonyezera chinyengo: funsani funso, lomwe likuyenera kuti likhale yankho losavomerezeka ("inde" kapena "ayi"). Wonyenga nthawi zonse amakhala ndi yankho lake, lomwe limadziwika ndi kusadziwika kwake.
Kodi mungadziwe bwanji bodza ndi manja?
Zimadziwika kuti anthu onama saganizira kwambiri, chifukwa kunama kumafuna kuganiza bwino. Zotsatira zake, mphamvu zambiri zimagwiritsidwa ntchito kuchokera kumbali zosiyanasiyana za thupi la bodza. Zomwe zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kudziwa, ndizochepa zomwe munthuyo amadziŵa.
Psychology yapeza manja angapo omwe amathandiza kumvetsa momwe angadziwire bodza:
- Maganizo a interlocutor angakuuzeni zambiri. Kotero, ngati iye amamuchotsa nthawizonse, ndiye kuti mwayi wake ndi wakuti akubisa chinachake kuchokera kwa iwe. Koma musaiwale kuti mwinamwake mukuchita ndi munthu wamanyazi, choncho munthu safuna kukuyang'anani.
- Ngati wogwiritsira ntchito wanu akugwiritsira ntchito zipangizo zake, nthawi zambiri amakhudza chinsalu chake, mphuno, izi zimamusangalatsa.
- Kusunthira mobwerezabwereza, mawu osagwedera angasonyeze kuti ndiwongolankhula m'mawu.
Ndiyenela kudziŵa kuti poyamba, phunzitsani luso lanu lozindikira mabodza pa manja ndi nkhope za anthu omwe ali pa televizioni.
Momwe mungazindikire mabodza a munthu?
Palibe nkhani kwa wina aliyense amene akuyimira zabodza zamphamvu zogonana. Chinthu chodabwitsa kwambiri ndi chakuti pamene chibwenzi chikunama kwa inu, mumachiwona pomwepo. Pankhani ya munthu, simunali zomwe mukuwona, mumamva bodza, ndipo ngakhale mwachilendo mumakhulupirire mawu ake.
Kotero, ife tipereka zitsanzo za mawu omwe samanyamula mwa iwo wokha choonadi chochepa pang'ono:
- " Ndimakhala naye yekha chifukwa ndili ndi ana amodzi, koma ndimakukondani." Vomerezani kuti kusamalira ana ndibwino komanso kolemekezeka, komanso muli ndi ufulu wokonda. Ganizirani ngati mumasamala za munthu yemwe samayamikira nthawi yanu.
- "Ndimasangalala kwambiri." Ngati ili ndi msonkhano wanu woyamba ndi munthu uyu, ndiye kuti mwayiwu ndi wabwino kuti chiwerengerochi chikuwonjezeka. Ndipo ngati mumakhala pamodzi, ndiye kuti mwamuna wanu adasewera. Talingalirani, moona, ngati munthu,
Mphatso yake ku bajeti yanu yonse ndi yabwino. - "Zedi, iwe umawoneka wokongola mu diresi ili." Mwamunayo akunena mawu amenewa, motsogoleredwa ndi chidziwitso cha kudzipulumutsa. Zindikirani kuti si anthu onse omwe ali akatswiri mu mafashoni, kotero sizingatheke kuti akunena zoona. Khalani otsimikiza ndipo mvetserani mwatsatanetsatane malingaliro anu anu kusiyana ndi omwe akuzungulira inu.
Choncho, zimakhala zovuta kuzindikira bodza kuchokera koyamba, koma kwa anthu omwe ali ndi chidziwitso choyamba sichidzakhala chovuta. Ndipo wina aliyense akulangizidwa kuti azichita ndi kukhazikitsa chidziwitso tsiku ndi tsiku.