Munthu aliyense ali ndi lingaliro lake payekha ngati pali chikondi chenicheni. Pafupi aliyense pa funso ili amapereka yankho lovomerezeka, koma munthu aliyense amatha kutanthauzira mosiyana ndi lingaliro limeneli. Ndicho chifukwa chake funso la chikondi lingathe kuonedwa kuti ndilolondola, lomwe n'zosatheka kupereka yankho limodzi.
Kodi pali chikondi chenicheni?
Asayansi akhala akufufuza nkhaniyi kwa zaka zambiri, ndipo adakwanitsa kupanga zofunikira zingapo zofunika. Mwachitsanzo, kukondana ndi theka la miniti yokha. Ichi ndi chifukwa chake kuwona kwa kukhalapo kwa chikondi poyamba pakuwona malo. Ubale uliwonse umayamba ndi nthawi ya chikondi, yomwe imapezeka pokhapokha pa ntchentche. Kwa nthawi ino, pali malingaliro otero: kuwonjezeka maganizo, chilakolako , chilakolako chogonana chochuluka, ndi zina zotero. Nthawi ya chikondi imakhala miyezi 12 mpaka 17.
Kumvetsetsa mutuwu, kaya pali chikondi chimodzi, ndi bwino kuzindikira kuti ndi msinkhu, munthu amasintha malingaliro ake pa izi. Ngati choyamba chirichonse chimangidwira pa thupi, ndiye pambuyo pa gawo lalikulu, malingaliro, malingaliro, ndi zina zotero zimayamba kusewera. Malinga ndi akatswiri a maganizo, chikondi sichitha popanda zigawo zitatu zofunikira: ubwenzi, chilakolako ndi ulemu. Kuwonjezera apo, pali lingaliro kuti kuti ubale ukhale chikondi, iwo ayenera kudutsa mu magawo asanu ndi awiri osiyana. Anthu ambiri amakhumudwitsidwa, amaperekedwa, ndipo pamapeto pake pamapeto pake kumatsimikizira kuti chikondi sichipezeka ndipo ndi chikondi basi.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti, ngakhale kuti anthu ambiri amati chikondi ndikumverera, ichi ndi "ntchito" yaikulu ya anthu omwe akufuna kukhala ndi ubale wamphamvu ndi wamuyaya.
Asayansi anayesa kufufuza, akuganiza ngati pali chikondi cha moyo kapena nthano chabe. Zotsatira zake, zinatsimikiziridwa kuti zowawa,