Pakati pa anthu awiri zambiri zingatheke: ndipo mnyamatayo akhoza kukhala wolakwika, ndi mtsikanayo. Zonsezi zimapangitsa kuti ubale ukhale wovuta kwambiri. Pamapeto pake, mwinamwake, kudzakhala kuphulika. Ndikofunika kuchita chinachake.
Pomwepo mafunso angapo ndipo, mwinamwake, mayankho angapo. Choyamba, zingakhale zoyenera kuyankha moona mtima: Kodi mnyamatayo adalakwira? Kapena mwinamwake mumakhumudwa nokha?
Ngati cholakwacho chinali chikhalire (mnyamata amene amanyengerera, naham, sanakwaniritse lonjezano, ndi zina zotero), ndiye kuyenera kuyang'anitsitsa ngati akuzindikira. Mwinamwake iye amaganiza kuti "izi ndizo malamulo a masewero," monga nyimbo imati. Pali mabuku ambiri otsika mtengo, kumene amauzidwa za atsikana a nthano, ndipo anyamata amawerenga, amakhulupirira ndikutsatira malangizo a olemba chisoni.
Ngati munthuyo akudziŵa kuti ali ndi mlandu, ndiye kuti sikuyenera kumulanga, aliyense ali ndi ufulu kulakwitsa.
Kodi mungamulange bwanji mwamuna wachikondi ngati anakhumudwitsa mtsikanayo ndipo sakuzindikira?
- Zingakhale bwino kuwauza kuti asamachite zimenezo. Gwiritsani ntchito galasi, koma kumbukirani: zinthu zambiri zomwe anthu amadziona kuti ndizochepa kuposa atsikana, komanso ambiri-mmalo mwake. Ngati munthuyo mwiniyo anapita kwa mnzake pa tsiku lake lobadwa, ndipo mtsikanayo sanamuchenjeze, ndiye kuti nayenso ayenera kupita kwinakwake popanda iye. Komanso kuti asachenjeze. Ndipo atakwiya, dabwa: "Kodi mwakhumudwa? Koma bwanji? Pambuyo pake, inu nokha nthawi zonse muzichita izi! "Musalankhule momveka bwino:" Eya! Tsopano mukumvetsa zomwe ndimamva ... "
- Kawirikawiri, atsikana amasankha chida chobwezera chifukwa cha nsanje ndi kukwiyitsa wokondedwa wawo, kotero amayamba kuchita nsanje. Apa chinthu chofunikira sikuti chiziwonongeke ndi zabwino zonse, popanda kunyalanyaza za kuonongeka ndi wina.
- Amuna sakufuna kuona mkazi wosasangalala pambali pawo, choncho chithunzi cha wogwidwa (kusasamala, kukhutitsidwa ndi kupsinjika kwa diso, ndi zina zotero), kanthawi kochepa, kungathandize munthu wolakwa kuti avomereze kulakwitsa kwake ndikumupangitsa kuti azivutika ndi chikumbumtima chake.
- Ngati uphungu pamwambapa suwathandiza, njira yabwino yobwezeretsera munthu wolakwira ikhoza kukhala kunyalanyaza kwathunthu. Musayankhe foni, musayankhe uthengawo, musapitane nawo. Koma pa nthawi yomweyi, kawirikawiri pagulu ndipo, monga momwemo, osati pamtima, dziwonetseni nokha ngati mkazi wokongola.
- Chabwino, ndikuti mungapite popanda njira yodziwika yochulukira anthu? Misozi, yochuluka komanso yowirikiza, kulira kwachisoni sikudzasiya munthu wolakwira. Ndipo ngakhale simukumvetsetsa zolakwa zanu, ndiye kuti chilakolako chosawona kupweteka kwa mtsikana (chomwe sichivuta kupirira) chimukakamiza mnyamatayo kubwezeretsa malo ake okondedwa.
Ndipo ngati iye anakhumudwitsa mwadala? Kotero, msungwanayo si wokondedwa kwambiri kwa iye, ndipo mmalo moganizira momwe angamulangizire mnyamata wokondedwa, ndi bwino kuganiza kuti asamapatukane naye mpaka atapanda moyo?