Kugonana

Poganizira kuti masiku ano vuto la kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha limakhala vuto la mapulaneti, pali anthu okhaokha ogonana, ndipo izi zimaphatikizapo kutuluka kwa chinthu choterocho monga propaganda yakugonjera.

Kugonana ndi khalidwe loipa lomwe limagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha monga momwe amachitira anthu omwe akutsatira makhalidwe abwino komanso achikhalidwe. Ku Russia, lamulo lonena za kudzipha anthu linanena za chaka cha 1706 chiyambi cha Peter I cha chigamulo cha chigwirizano cha kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ngakhale ngakhale pa nthawi ya Ivan yotopetsa anyamatawo amachepetsa pafupifupi tsar amene amasonyeza zofuna zachilendo.

Mu 1972, kudzimvera kwawo kumatanthawuza kukhala mantha ocheza ndi anthu omwe si achikhalidwe, ndipo ngati tikulankhula za amuna okhaokha okhaokha, izi zikutanthawuza mantha awo enieni. Kwa anthu oterowo, kudziletsa kwaokha kungakhale vuto la mkati pamene likulephera kulamulira mantha a amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso zithunzi zomwe zimayambitsa. Kutayika kwa ulamuliro wotereku kumachokera pa nthawi ya kukayikira mwachizoloŵezi cha kayendedwe kawo, apa ikuwonjezeka, zithunzi zikuyamba kumenyana ndi Mlengi wake.

Zimayambitsa kusamvana

Mndandanda wa mayiko osiyanasiyana m'maganizo saganiza kuti kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi matenda. Ana omwe akuleredwa ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kuposa ana omwe amakulira m'banja lachikhalidwe. Anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha samafuna maudindo, ufulu wapadera wandale komanso zopindulitsa. Kodi amayi amachokera kuti?

Ziwerengero zimasonyeza kuti malo a anthu ambiri saloŵera ndale ndipo ndi anthu 20 peresenti okha omwe amasonyeza khalidwe lachiwerewere. Pankhaniyi, madera otsatirawa ndi osiyana:

• malo olekerera omwe amadziŵa zamaganizo, zamakhalidwe ndi makhalidwe abwino ndi ofanana a oimira zachikhalidwe;
• chizoloŵezi chofuna kukondana ndi amuna okhaokha, pamene maganizo awo kwa azimayi ndi azimuna amatsatiridwa, osakhala okwanira kapena omwe amawopsyeza anthu (amafuna ufulu wawo, chithandizo kapena chiwembu);
• kusalowerera ndale, ndiko kuti, kusakhala ndi chidwi chilichonse pa vuto kapena kusafuna kufotokoza maganizo ake;
• malo ogwirizana, ndiko kuti, malo omwe amasiyana malinga ndi zomwe mukudziŵa panopo, momwe mumaganizira komanso momwe mulili.
• gulu lapadera limayimilidwa ndi anthu omwe ali ndi udindo wotero, ndiko kuti, omwe ali okhutira ndi zomwe zilipo (kusagonjetsedwa ndi kusankhana).

Mayesero owonetsa kuti amatha kudziwonetsera okha kuti angathe kukhala otseguka komanso obisika. Chobisika chimadziwika ndi chakuti munthu amadana ndi kugonana koteroko, amawawona kuti akuthawa, koma sadzaonetsa kusakhutira kwake kapena kutenga kanthu kalikonse. Koma, mwatsoka, palinso otentheka omwe sazengereza kunena kuti amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ayenera kuwonongedwa, Muphe munthu chifukwa amamukonda munthu wina. Ndipo chokhumudwitsa kwambiri ndi chakuti homophobes oterewa alipo komanso amachita mwakhama. Pali kale zifukwa zodzipha ana a sukulu, kugwiriridwa kwa azimayi kuti athe kukonza chikhalidwe chawo, kupha amuna okhaokha chifukwa cha chidani ndipo izi siziri kutali.

Kodi mungachotsere bwanji anthu odzudzula?

Chotsani munthu wokhala ndi chiopsezo cha munthu munthu angathe kokha pamene sakusowa chitetezo chokwanira. Popanda matenda a maganizo pano ndikofunikira. Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti kwa munthu aliyense payekha amakhala ndi udindo wokhala ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu, zomwe ali nazo zabwino, koma ngati sakayiwala mfundo yakuti ufulu wa kulala wake uyenera kutha pamene ufulu wa mphuno wa munthu ukuyamba.