Kugonana kwachikazi

Monga mukudziwa, palibe amayi oipa. Pali akazi okha omwe safuna kukhala okongola. Izi zingagwiritsidwe ntchito moyenera kwa chiwerewere.

Pafupifupi amayi onse omwe ali mu nthawiyi kapena nthawi ya moyo ayamba kukhala ndi chidwi ndi funsoli: "Momwe mungakulitsire kugonana kwa amayi?" Zingatheke kuti tichite zimenezi monga momwe timakhalira ndi makhalidwe ena - chikhalidwe, chuma, kutseguka. Kupewa izi kungathe kukhala ulesi, kusadziwa kapena kusokoneza maganizo.

Kulongosola za kugonana kwa amayi kumapereka zambiri:

1. Kupambana ndi kugonana kwachikazi kumayenderana, chifukwa chinsinsi cha chidaliro cha mkazi mwa iyemwini, kudzikonda kwake ndiko mphamvu yowononga ya kugonana.
2. Mzimayi wotseguka pa zochitika zogonana amakopa amuna kwaokha. Iye ndi wokongola, amawoneka bwino komanso amatha kusintha maudindo osiyanasiyana. Wokondedwa wake ndipo akukhutira ndi moyo wake wapamtima - ndi wogwirizana komanso wosiyana.
3. Kugonana kwa mkazi ndi chinthu chofunika kwambiri kuti banja likhale losangalala, chifukwa kugwirizana pakati pa bedi, kukopa kwa mwamuna wake ndikofunikira pa banja losangalala.

Koma kuti "awulule", muyenera kudziwa chomwe chimachititsa kuti akazi azigonana. Psycholoji ya kugonana kwachikazi ndi nkhani yovuta kwambiri. Malingaliro a Freud, amayi ambiri ali ndi zopinga zazikulu za maganizo zomwe zimalepheretsa mawonetseredwe a chiwerewere. Koma "palibe chinthu chosatheka kwa munthu yemwe ali ndi nzeru," choncho, ataphunzira zinsinsi zazikulu za kugonana kwa amayi, ngakhale ndi "zotchinga" kwambiri zomwe mkazi adzatha kulikulitsa.

Zizindikiro ndi mawonetseredwe a chiwerewere

Tiyeni tiyang'ane pa mawonetseredwe a kugonana kwa akazi, ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo akuwulula zigawo zake zazikulu.

1. Chikondi kwa thupi lanu. Mzimayi amene amakonda thupi lake ndi wachigololo kwambiri, kugonana kwake "kununkhiza" kuchokera kutali. Chifukwa chaichi, sikofunikira kugula mankhwala onse okongoletsera ndikugwiritsa ntchito ndi kilogalamu, "kuvala", ndi zina zotero. Zovala za mkazi wotero, pamwamba pa zonse, ziri zachikazi ndi zokondweretsa, ndipo thupi ndi nkhope ndi zosangalatsa ndi zokonzeka bwino. Amadziyang'anitsitsa yekha ndipo sadzalola mosamala mosamalitsa kudula misomali, kapena mapaundi owonjezera. Chofunikanso chofunika ndi chikhalidwe cha mkazi, malo ake, kayendedwe ka thupi. Mkazi wokhudzana ndi chiwerewere sakhala wamwano komanso wankhanza. Poonjezera kugonana kwa amai, masewera a kuvina akulimbikitsidwa. Koma pa chikondi chimodzi kuti thupi liziyenda muyendedwe mulimonsemo n'kosatheka.
2. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndi zokometsera. Ndipotu, kukopana sikokwanira chabe, koma koposa zonse, kusonyeza kukondana ndi chikhalidwe cha amuna. Mzimayi akukangana ndi mwamuna amamutumizira mbendera kumuuza za chifundo chake.
3. Chiwonetsero cha ulemu ndi chikondi kwa mwamuna, kukwanitsa kusangalala kulankhulana naye. Mkazi wogonana amadziwa, amamva komanso amakonda amuna. Imafuna kudziwa chikhalidwe cha amuna. Kugonana kwachikazi sikuyenera kuvumbulutsidwa ngati mkazi amanyansidwa ndi amuna kapena amawopa - amuna pamlingo wa intuition amamva maganizo a akazi kwa iwo okha. Komabe, m'pofunika kudziwa, ulemu ndi chikondi kwa wina sizingatheke kuti mutha kukwaniritsa ulemu ndikudzikonda nokha.
4. Kukwanitsa kusangalala osati kugonana kokha, komanso kuchokera ku moyo. Kugonana kumaphatikizapo kukondwera ndi kutonthozedwa kulikonse, kuyenda, kusisita kapena kusonkhana.

Asayansi ambiri akuyesa kupereka chiwerengero cha chiwerewere pa nthawi iliyonse: ena amadziwa kuti zaka izi ndi 28, ena - 34, ndipo ena amasintha nthawiyi ndi 40. Komabe, akhoza kutsegula pafupifupi zaka zonse. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kungodziwa zinsinsi zazikulu za kugonana. Ndipo inu mumawadziwa iwo tsopano. Nkhani ndi yanu!