Ndi mkazi wanji amene sakufuna kuti akhale wapadera komanso wapadera kwa mwamuna wake? Kaŵirikaŵiri zimachitika kuti nayenso "amamukonda" mnzako, kwenikweni samamulola kuti apite ndi kutsogolo, zomwe zimabweretsa zotsatira zosiyana kwambiri ndi kutayika kwa munthu wokwera mtengo. Momwe mungakhalire wokondedwa komanso wofunikila kuganizila m'nkhaniyi.
Momwe mungakondere ndi kulakalaka mwamuna?
Choyamba, kudzipangira okha makhalidwe abwino azimayi - kutetezeka, kufooka, kuopseza, ndi zina zotero. M'nthaŵi ya matekinoloje atsopano, ndi zachilendo kuwerengera amuna ndi akazi omwe ali ndi makhalidwe omwewo. Koma ngati mkazi sakufuna kupikisana ndi mnzake, ndipo potsirizira pake amalemekezedwa ndi chidwi chake ngati wotaya, ayenera kudziwa mozindikira kuti iye ndi mkazi weniweni - wokhutira komanso amafuna chitetezo, osati kukangana. Izi zimanenedwa lero ndi ansembe, akudandaula kuti akazi amayamba kusewera violin yoyamba m'banja, kutenga udindo wa mwamuna m'banja - wopeza ndi woteteza.
Amene ali ndi chidwi chofuna kusirira ndi kukondedwa, ayenera kuchita zonse kuti asangalatse. Kodi mungachite bwanji zimenezi? Pezani zinthu zina zodzikongoletsa, zosangalatsa . Mukhoza kulemba kuvina kapena chinenero china. Ziribe kanthu, chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti pali chinachake chomwe mungakambirane madzulo kuti mudye chakudya kuphatikizapo masewero omwe mumawakonda komanso maloto ake otsiriza. Simungathe kudzidzimitsa nokha muzochitika ndi miyoyo ya amuna anu, mutenge udindo wa mayi wachikondi. Ndikofunika kupeza tanthauzo la golide pakati pa kunyalanyaza kwathunthu ndi kumizidwa kwathunthu mu moyo wa mnzako.
Kodi mungakonde bwanji wokondedwa wanu?
Choyamba, kudzilemekeza nokha, chifukwa nthawi imodzi yomwe mayi amavomereza kuti simudzilemekeza nokha, akhoza kuthetsa chiyanjano. Iwe sungakhoze kuthamangira munthu, kumutcha iye ndi kumunyoza iye kuti amusangalatse. Kwa mkazi woteroyo, mwamuna amataya chidwi mwamsanga ndipo aliyense amene akufuna kudziwa momwe angakhalire wokondedwa kwambiri kwa munthu wokondedwa ayenera kukumbukira izi. Nthawi zonse ndizofunika kuti mukhale ndi chiyanjano ndi chinsinsi chamtundu wina, kukondweretsa malingaliro a munthu wake, kukhala osakayika komanso panthawi imodzimodziyo.
Dzipangitse nokha ku chiwerewere, koma usakhale wopezeka. Amuna amakonda akazi omwe ali okondwa, ovuta kukwera, osangalala komanso osangalala. Amakhala ofunda komanso osakanikirana, amapewa mbali, kotero zokololazo zimawoneka bwino kwambiri mpaka nthawi yabwino, ngati simukufuna kutaya wokondedwa wanu. Ndikofunika kuti mumvetsere mnzanu ndikumuyamika, koma musapitirize kutamanda.