Kusamvetsa

Vuto lalikulu mu chiyanjano ndi kusamvetsetsana, izi zimagwira ntchito kuyankhulana m'banja, ndi abwenzi, kumalo ogwira ntchito, ndi kulikonse. Kuti tipewe kusamvana kwakukulu, kusamvetsetsana kotereku kuyenera kuyesedwa kuthetsa mwamsanga pambuyo pochitika.

Zifukwa za kusamvetsetsana

Ngati tilankhula za kusamvetsetsana muzoyanjana ndi anzako kapena abwenzi, ndiye chifukwa chake nthawi zambiri amalephera kumvetsera ndi kufotokoza maganizo awo momveka bwino. Nthawi zambiri anthu amaika maganizo awo pazokha, malingaliro awo ndi zochitika zawo, ndipo izi zimapangitsa kukhala kosatheka kuti wina amvetsetse. Choncho, pali mikangano yosiyanasiyana pakati pa iwo omwe, sizinali zovomerezeka kwa iwo.

Chodabwitsa kwambiri, koma chikondi ndi kusamvetsetsana ziri pafupi, kukangana m'banja chifukwa chachilendochi. Zikuwoneka, simungamvetse bwanji mnzanuyo? Maganizo olakwika awa ndi chifukwa cha mikangano yambiri ya mabanja. Kuyambira kukhala pamodzi, anthu pazifukwa zina amakhulupirira kuti wokondedwa wawo amamveka bwino, choncho kufotokozera chinachake sikumveka bwino. Mwachitsanzo, mzimayi, atapita kukacheza, adafunsa kuti ndi bwino kupita, wokondedwayo amakonda kusamba pambali, kupereka chovala chimene akufuna. Ndipo mkaziyo anakhumudwa ndi yankho ili. Chifukwa chiyani panali kusamvana ndi mwamuna wake? Chifukwa mwamuna wake anaona kuti nkhaniyi ndi yopanda pake, ndipo mkaziyo sanapeze chifukwa chofotokozera chifukwa chake akuyenera kuyang'ana lero. Zikuwoneka kuti chifukwa cha kukangana ndi zopusa, koma, komabe, mabanja ambiri amayamba kunyoza ndi zovuta ngati zimenezi. Choncho, pofuna kupeŵa kusamvetsetsana, wina ayenera kufotokozera udindo wake kwa wina ndi mzake, kupatula ngati, wokondedwa wanu ndi telepath.

Kodi mungapewe bwanji kusamvetsetsana?

Choyamba, ganizirani ngati maubwenzi amenewa ndi ofunikira kwa inu, kaya ndi oyenera kuwasunga. Izi zimakhudza ubale wa banja, onse ochezeka ndi ogwira ntchito. Kawirikawiri intuition imasonyeza kuti ndi munthu wina muyenera kuyesa kupeza chinenero chimodzi, ndipo wina ndi mphamvu yogwiritsa ntchito sizothandiza.

1. Fufuzani khalidwe lanu ndi munthu yemwe simungathe kukhazikitsa maubwenzi. Mwina nthawi zambiri mumakhala ndi ndemanga zovuta, kapena mmalo momvetsera maganizo a wina, mumayamba kukangana pa nthawi iliyonse, kutsimikizira kuti muli ndi ufulu. Sizovuta kulankhula ndi munthu wotero, chifukwa chake simuyenera kudabwa kuti wina akutsutsana nanu.
2. Ngati mumtundu wa munthu aliyense simukumva bwino, kusungunuka, kudzikongoletsa, kusungulumwa, ndiye kuti sikuyenera kulimbana nawo. Ngati uyu ndi wothandizira kuntchito, koma simudzasiya ntchito, yesetsani kulankhula naye mwaubwenzi, koma musamulole kuti ayandikire kwambiri kwa inu.
3. Ngati munthu nthawizonse amakhala wokhudzidwa ndi iye mwini, sichikulimbikitsani inu kapena mumawonetsa m'magulu ake sichizindikiro cha makhalidwe anu, ndiye ichi ndi chizindikiro cha mkangano. Ndiyeneranso kulingalira za ubale wotero, mwinamwake iwo sali woyenera kuyesetsa kwanu kusunga.
4. Kupeza mgwirizano, musagwiritse ntchito ma-mail, ICQ kapena SMS, kugwiritsa ntchito foni n'kosavomerezeka, ndi bwino kudzifotokozera nokha, maso ndi maso.
5. Yesetsani kuti musamangidwe. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mwakwiya kapena mukukhumudwitsidwa kunyumba, musabweretse izi kuyankhulana. Komanso, simuyenera kubweretsa mavuto a kunyumba, mwinamwake zidzasokoneza kusamvana ndi mikangano.

Anthu onse ndi osiyana kwambiri ndi maphunziro ndi khalidwe, ali ndi zosiyana ndi malingaliro okhudza moyo, kotero sikutheka kupeza chinenero chimodzi ndi aliyense. Choncho, ngati nthawi zonse mumatsutsana ndi munthu wina, ndi kuyesetsa kwanu kuti mupewe kanthu, pewani kuyanjana ndi munthuyu kapena kuchepetsa kulankhulana ndi iye, osayang'ana dziko mosiyana, choncho Kuyanjana ndi inu sikophweka.