Kutsimikiza mu maganizo - ndi chiyani komanso momwe mungachikulitsire?

Munthu wouza mtima ndi munthu wopambana, wodziimira yekha, ndipo nthawi zambiri anthu otere amakwiya komanso amatsutsidwa ndi ena, pamene ena amachititsa kumverera ndi kuyamikira. Kulingalira ndi luso lomwe lingapangidwe ngati likukhumba.

Kodi ndikutanthauza chiyani?

Kulingalira ndi chitsanzo cha khalidwe la munthu yemwe watenga mphamvu zake zonse, mmene akumvera, momwe amachitira moyo wake komanso maubwenzi ake. Lingaliro la kuimirira linachokera ku chinenero cha Chingerezi, amatanthauzidwa ngati kutetezera malingaliro ake, ufulu ndi kufotokozedwa mu ndondomekoyi: "Ine ndiribe chirichonse kwa iwe, monga iwe kwa ine, ndife ofanana nawo".

Kuzindikira mu Psychology

Kwa nthawi yoyamba, lingaliro la kutsimikizika linadziwonetsera lokha mu zaka za m'ma XX za m'ma XX. mu ntchito ya A. Salter (katswiri wa zamaganizo wa ku America). Malingaliro ake, A. Salter akugwirizanitsa kwambiri kufunika kwa chiopsezo cha munthu payekha, kukhazikitsa chiwawa ndi chitetezo cha khalidwe lachinyengo, ubale wotere pakati pa anthu umatsogolera ku imfa, wasayansi amakhulupirira. Chinthu chinanso chochitira nkhanza ndi kusaganizira, ndi khalidwe losabereka, komanso umunthu wokhazikika, mu maganizo a A. Salter, ali ndi makhalidwe ambiri oyenerera kwa anthu.

Zizindikiro za khalidwe lachidziwitso

Khalidwe lodziteteza ndilo lingaliro lofanana ndi kudzikhutira ndipo nthawi zambiri limafanana nalo. Pazifukwa ziti zomwe mungapeze makhalidwe abwino:

• munthuyo amadziwonekera yekha ndi ena;
• mtendere wamkati ndi wamkati;
• kuyesa molondola zochita zawo;
• chodabwitsa;
• amasonyeza moona mtima mmene akumvera;
• kuteteza malire ake ndi kulemekeza malire a anthu ena;
• Amamvetsera mwatcheru ndikukupatsani nkhani yonse;
• Amayang'ana maso ndi interlocutor;
• ali ndi udindo woyenera pa mawonetseredwe a kumverera kwake;
• amadziwa kusungunuka ndi maganizo a anthu ena.

Malamulo a khalidwe lachidziwitso

Khalidwe lodziletsa limaphatikizapo kutenga udindo wanu pa moyo wanu ndi zomwe zikuchitika. Malamulo ambiri kapena malamulo omwe akutsatira pa chitukuko chawo munthu amene wayamba njira yowonjezera:

1. Kuyankhulana kwabwino ndi anthu mu chinsinsi cha kuwona mtima, kuwona mtima ndi kunena moona mtima.
2. Chionetsero cha cholinga chabwino.
3. Osatengapo mbali mu mkangano ndi mawonetseredwe achiwawa kwa ena
4. Lemezani maganizo a wogwirizanitsa, osati kudzivulaza yekha.
5. Kuyesetsa kukambirana ndi kuthandizana pothandizira mbali zonse ziwiri.

Ufulu wachibadwidwe waumunthu

Anthu amene athandiza maganizo amenewa amatsatira mfundo zina zomwe Manuel Smith (wamaganizo a ku America) adalemba m'buku lake "Kuphunzitsa kudzidalira". Ufulu wotsutsa chifukwa chodzipangitsa kuti munthu aliyense ali ndi ufulu:

• onetsetsani khalidwe lawo, malingaliro, malingaliro;
• musati mufotokoze ndi kupepesa;
• Sankhani kuchuluka kwake kapena kuthetsa mavuto a ena;
• sintha maganizo anu;
• panga zolakwika;
• nenani "sindikudziwa!".
• Musadalire malingaliro abwino a ena;
• kupanga zosankha zopanda nzeru.
• "Musamvetse" zonse.
• poyera, opanda mlandu, kunena kuti "Sindikufuna!".

Momwe mungayesere kutsimikizira?

Kuti mumvetse munthu yemwe ali ndi khalidwe lachidziwitso, kapena ali ndi malingaliro a khalidweli, pali mayeso osavuta kuti athe kuyankha, "Inde", "Ayi" ku mafunso ofunsidwa:

1. Zolakwitsa za ena zimayambitsa kukwiya mwa ine.
2. Ndikhoza kukumbukira mwakachetechete bwenzi la ntchito yanga yakale.
3. Nthawi zina ndimama.
4. Ndikhoza kudzisamalira ndekha.
5. Sindinkayenera kulipira zonyamula katundu.
6. Kulimbana kumapindulitsa kwambiri kuposa mgwirizano.
7. Ine ndikudandaula za zopanda pake.
8. Ndatsimikizika kwambiri ndikudziimira ndekha.
9. Ndikumverera mwachikondi kwa aliyense amene ndikudziwa.
10. Ndimadzikhulupirira ndekha ndikuzindikira kuti ndidzathetsa mavuto ambiri.
11. Ndiyenera nthawi zonse kusamala ndi kuteteza zofuna zanga.
12. Sindiseka kuseka kosasangalatsa.
13. Ndikuzindikira ndikulemekeza akuluakulu.
14. Sindikhoza kupanga zingwe kunja kwa ine - ndikutsutsa.
15. Zoyamba zabwino zimathandizidwa ndi ine.
16. Sindinama.
17. Ndili wothandiza.
18. Ndine wovutika maganizo chifukwa cholephera.
19. Mawu akuti, "Kufuna thandizo, pamwamba pa zonse paphewa panu" kumandichititsa kuvomereza.
20. Anzanga amandikhudza kwambiri.
21. Nthawi zonse, ngakhale ena sakudziwa kuti ndikulondola.
22. Kugwira ntchito n'kofunika kwambiri kuposa kupambana.
23. Ndisanachite chilichonse, ndimaganizira ndi kulingalira zomwe anthu ena angaganize.
24. Chifundo kwa ine si chachilendo.

Ndikofunika kuwerengera chiwerengero cha mawu abwino pa mafungulo:

• Mutu A: 1,6,7,11,13,18,20,23.
• Mphindi B: 2,4,8,10,14,17,19,22.
• Mphindi C: 3,5,9,12,15,16,21,24.

1. Mutu Wotsogoleredwa ndi chiwerengero cha mayankho abwino: pali zisonyezo zokhudzana ndi kutsimikizirika, koma pamoyo sizikugwiritsidwa ntchito. Pa msinkhu uwu, kusakhutira ndikulumikizana osati kwa ena okha, koma payekha. Chizindikiro chochepa kwambiri cha mayankho abwino: munthu samagwiritsa ntchito mwayi wambiri m'moyo.
2. Mfungulo ndi B. Ngati pali mawu abwino apa, ndiye kuti munthu angaganizire mosamala munthu m'njira yoyenera kuti adziwe maluso a khalidwe lachidziwitso. Nthawi zina pangakhale nkhanza. Mapangidwe ang'onoang'ono mufungulo ili sikutanthauza kuti simungakhoze kuphunzira, ndizofunika kusonyeza chikhumbo ndi chipiriro.
3. Mphindi C : Zigawo zapamwamba muyiyi zimasonyeza kuti mwayi wapamwamba wa munthu ukudziwa bwino. Chizindikiro chochepa cha mawu abwino - munthu ali ndi chinyengo chodziona yekha mwabwino kwambiri, ali wosasamala ndi iye mwini ndi ena. Pali chinachake choyenera kuganizira.

Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale wolimba mtima?

Munthu wouza mtima, uyu ndiye munthu yemwe anazindikira zochitika zake zowononga ndipo anasankha kusintha moyo wake. Mungathe kukhala odzipereka nokha, chifukwa ichi mukusowa:

• kuti muwone mwaulere mwaulere kulongosola kwaufulu kapena "kulenga" umunthu;
• Dziwani kuti anthu ena amakhalanso omasuka maganizo awo, malingaliro awo ndi maganizo awo ;
• khalani okoma mtima ndi oona mtima.
• onani, mawu, nkhope ndi manja ziyenera kukhala ndi chidaliro.

Kuponderezedwa ndi kutsimikiza

Khalidwe lodziteteza pakagwiritsidwa ntchito ndilo chida chabwino kwambiri choletsa kuyika zizindikiro ndi anthu osokoneza bongo, koma pali chiopsezo chothamangira pazomwe akuyendetsa poyamba, pamene ufulu wokhawokha wa munthu amene amachita khalidwe lovomerezeka amadziwika kuti ndi wamtengo wapatali, choncho munthu ayenera kumvetsetsa ndikuzindikira kuti ufulu wovomerezeka ukuwonetsera pa digiri imodzi ufulu wa anthu ena ndiyeno - uwu ndi mgwirizano wofanana.

Kutsimikiza - mabuku

Zochita ndi zizoloŵezi zowonjezera mauthenga zimaperekedwa m'mabuku ogulitsa kwambiri:

1. "Mmene mungachitire zinthu mwanu." S. Bishop . Munthu wotsutsa ndi munthu wopambana amene amatsutsa kugwiritsidwa ntchito ndi nkhanza. Bukhuli likufufuza njira zotetezera zofuna zawo, popanda kulowerera mu mikangano.
2. "Chilankhulo cha moyo. Kulankhulana kosagwirizana. " M. Rosenberg . Njira ya NGO yathandiza anthu zikwi zambiri ndikusintha miyoyo yawo kuti ikhale yabwino.
3. "Malingaliro ndi chizoloŵezi chotsimikizika, kapena Momwe mungakhalire omasuka, ogwira ntchito ndi achirengedwe." G. Lindelfield . Bukuli limalongosola njira zomwe zimakhalira ndi makhalidwe odzikonda kuti zithe kugwirizana ndi anthu.