Kuwonetsera kwina ndi kugonana kwapadera ndikutchulidwa kwa kayendedwe ka chikhalidwe cha anthu pa moyo wawo. Mu psychology, kugonana ndi chikhalidwe cha umunthu, chibadwidwe mwa anthu omwe amatenga udindo pa zomwe zimawachitikira, chifukwa cha zochita zawo paokha. Mtundu umenewu umasonyeza kukula kwa kudziletsa. Ali pafupi kwambiri ndi chitukuko cha udindo waumwini.
Kutchuka kwapakati kumasonyezera mlingo wokwanira wa kusintha. Munthu amadziwa kuti moyo wake umadalira yekha, amatha kusintha chilengedwe ndikuchiyang'anira. Iye ali ndi malingaliro oyenera a dziko loyandikana ndi kusintha kosavuta pakati pa anthu.
Zokwera kunja ndi anthu omwe amayang'ana pa mwayi, mwayi, mwayi. Anthu amkati amadalira luso ndi luso. Mfundo ziwirizi sizinagwirizane. Iwonso, amagwirizana ndi miyambo ya chikhalidwe: kum'maŵa kumathandizira kupanga mapangidwe a umunthu, ndi chikhalidwe chakumadzulo cha mkati. Zochititsa chidwi Zachikhalidwe cha dziko lonse m'munda wa zochitika za abambo ndi amai zimagwirizana ndi kukhazikika kwa maganizo. Kuchokera pamakhalidwe a abambo ndi amai kumadalira udindo wa khalidwe lawo pankhani yogonana. Malingana ndi kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi akatswiri a zamaganizo ndi akatswiri a zachikhalidwe cha anthu, kukhutira ndi ukwati kumakhudzana mwachindunji ndi kuchuluka kwa maonekedwe a anthu:
- mosasamala za kugonana, anthu omwe ali ndi udindo pa zochitika m'miyoyo yawo ali okhutira kwambiri ndi maubwenzi ndi ukwati;
- mu psychology, kawirikawiri amakhulupirira kuti ndi kuvomereza kwina komwe kumayambitsa chitukuko cha umunthu ndi kupambana mu zotsatira za zochitika zosiyanasiyana za moyo;
- Ophunzirawo sakhala ndi nkhawa kwambiri ndipo sakhala ndi nkhawa.
Anthu amtundu uwu samasonyeza zachiwawa zochepa, ali okoma mtima, amaleza mtima ndi aluso, akhoza kutchedwa "moyo wa kampani."
Kodi ubwino wa internals ndi uti?
Anthu otero samadzidalira, amakhala ndi cholinga komanso moyo. Munthu yemwe ali ndi udindo payekha ndipo ali ndi udindo pa ntchito zake, amadziwa momwe angakwaniritsire zomwe akufuna. Musataye mu zovuta ndipo musataye mtima mutha kukhulupirira chikhulupiriro chanu. Aliyense amene amadalira tsogolo, mwayi ndi zina zotero zimadalira zochitika, amawamvera ndipo samayesa kusintha chirichonse. Moyo wawo credo ndi wosavuta: "Chilichonse chimakonzedweratu, simungathe kuthawa". Ndipotu, munthu, amatsimikizira ulesi wake ndi kusaganizira. Kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino muyenera kugwira ntchito mwakhama, komanso pamwamba pa nokha.