Makhalidwe a munthu ndi "mapulaneti ena": Nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta kumvetsa mmene "mlendo" uyu amamvera , makamaka ngati amadzibisa mwa yekha. Komabe, mukhoza kumvetsetsa, chifukwa pali zizindikiro kuti mumakonda munthu.
Kodi mungamvetse bwanji kuti mumakonda?
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti pali zizindikiro zambiri, ndipo ena mwa iwo tidzadziwana bwino:
- munthu amene amakukondani, amafunika kulankhulana nthawi zonse, amadziwa mavuto ndi zovuta za moyo wanu ndipo akuthandizani kuthetsa iwo;
- Ngati simukukhala limodzi, khalani okonzekera misonkhano yodalirika pafupi ndi khomo, malo a ntchito yanu kapena phunziro lanu;
- ali wokonzeka kukupatsani mphatso "monga choncho," kuti mukwaniritse zokhumba zanu ndi kupereka njira zomwe mungakambirane, zomwe mungakhale nokha kwa nthawi yaitali.
Moyo wathu ndi wosiyana, ndipo zikuchitika kuti mukuyamba kupatsidwa chizindikiro cha chidwi ndi mwamuna wokwatira. Inde, sikuti onse "zhenatiki" omwe amakuuzani kuyamikira kapena kuponyera kuyaka mukatha kukondana nanu, koma pali zizindikiro kuti mumakonda mwamuna wokwatiwa.
Ngakhale iye ali wokwatira ...
Tiyenera kukumbukira nthawi yomweyo kuti zizindikiro izi zimadalira zomwe munthuyo mwiniyo ali:
- ngati uyu ndi mwamuna wodziwika bwino wa amayi kapena, monga akunena mwachidule, womanizer, pamaso panu adzayesa kuyang'ana wodabwitsa, wodabwitsa, wochenjera. N'zotheka kuti atsimikizidwe kuti simumusamala, mungamuitane ku cafe, koma nthawi zambiri - kukuitanani kuti muyendere popanda kuganizira zolimba;
- ngati ndi munthu wamkulu, ndiye kuti pali zizindikiro zina zomwe mumakonda mwamuna, kuphatikizapo wogwira nawo ntchito. Adzachitapo kanthu kuti athandizidwe pa ntchito yanu, kuti azikhala limodzi ndi inu pambuyo pa kutha kwa msonkhano, kukuyembekezerani inu, kusonyeza chikhumbo chokuwonerani kwanu, kupereka maluwa, pamene mukuyesera kubisala kumverera kwanu.
Palinso zizindikiro zina zomwe zingakuthandizeni kumvetsa kuti mumakonda mwamuna, izi ndizo manja. Umboni kuti simukumulemekeza, ngati akubwereza, amasindikiza zomwe mumakonda kapena zachizoloŵezi, amayang'ana kutali ndi manyazi pamene mumayesa kuwonekera mwachindunji, amayesa kutenga dzanja lanu ndikuliika lanu.