Chiyanjano ndi chinthu chovuta komanso chosamvetsetseka. Ndipo ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi ndi wovuta kwambiri. Kawirikawiri pa chisamaliro ndi kusintha kwa maubwenzi, atsikana amagwira ntchito. Zimakhala zovuta kupirira mikangano, kusamvetsetsana, kupandukira. Nthawi zina zimawoneka kuti ubale sungakhoze kupulumutsidwa. Koma, ngakhale izi, msungwana aliyense wachikondi pa nthawi zotero amaganiza za momwe angakhalire ubale ndi mwamuna. Tiyeni tiyesere kumvetsa izi.
Momwe mungakhalire maubwenzi ndi ndondomeko yanu
Choyamba, ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa chifukwa cha matendawa. Ngati simugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yochuluka ya nthawi yomwe mumagwiritsira ntchito, yesetsani kupeza chifukwa chake mumapatsidwa nthawi yochepa. Mwinamwake ndi "ziphuphu" kuntchito. Musati "muwone" mnyamatayo, ngati ayesera kuti apambane mu ntchito yake, akugwiritsa ntchito nthawiyi kuti azikhala ndi bwenzi lanu. Thandizani izi, chifukwa ndi zopereka za tsogolo lanu palimodzi. Pezani kunyumba kwake ndi kumwetulira, chakudya chamadzulo. Musamufunse chifukwa chake anali atachedwa. Pamene ali wokonzeka, adzakuuzani nokha ndi chisangalalo ndikugawana nkhani za tsikulo, kumudziwa.
Mwinamwake mwamunayo anali atatopa ndi mikangano nthawizonse, kunjenjemera, kutemberera. Iye safuna kuitana kapena kulemba. Pambuyo pake, nthawi zina kulankhulana kosavulaza kungasanduke chisokonezo chachikulu. Dziyang'ane nokha ndi maso ake, ganizirani, mwinamwake mumamuyang'anitsitsa, chifukwa wina wasokoneza maganizo anu. Yesetsani kuthetsa mkwiyo wanu, kukwiyira ndipo mudzawona kuti, mwinamwake, palibe chokhumudwitsidwa ndi! Podziwa nokha, mudzamvetsetsa momwe mungamvetsere ubale ndi mnyamata.
Tiyeni tiyesetse kupeza momwe tingakhalire mgwirizano wa kugonana. Ndipotu, nkotheka kuti chifukwa cha chisokonezo chimakhala chosakhutira ndi iye ndi zosowa zanu ndi zikhumbo zanu. Kwa ichi, choyamba, ndikofunikira kulankhula ndi mnzanu, kupeza zomwe akufuna, kunena za iye. Musaope kulankhula, musaope kuyesera. Chikondi ndi chilakolako zimatha ndi nthawi. Sungani moto mwa inu nokha komanso mwa wokondedwa wanu.
Ndipo zinthu ziri bwanji ndi "malo anu"? Mwamuna sangamangidwe kumpheto ndi mchira wake kuti amutsatire iye ku misonkhano yonse ya anzako, ogwira nawo ntchito, ndi zina zotero. Khulupirira munthu wako, amusiyeni apite ku msonkhano wa amuna okha,
Zifukwa za vuto la kugonana zingakhale zazikulu. Izi zikuyesa foni, ndikuziyerekezera ndi zoyamba, ndi kunyoza podula mphatso zolakwika. Khalani pamwamba pake. Khulupirirani wokondedwa wanu, ndipo musasowe kufufuza malangizo momwe mungamvetsere ubale wanu.