Ngakhale mutakhalapo ndi zina zotero zaka zambiri zapitazo, izi sizikutanthauza kuti vuto la chikondi chomwe simunakondwerepo chikhoza kukumbukirani nokha. Zingatenge kanthawi, ndipo mudzakhala ndi nthawi yokhala ndi ana ndi ana. Koma mwadzidzidzi adzabweranso. Chikondi chosagwirizanitsa chiri ndi maganizo ake enieni, ndi kuchotsa izo, molondola, kuchokera ku zowawa, si zophweka monga zikuwonekera. Tiye tione chifukwa chake.
Chikondi ndi njala
Kumverera kulikonse, nthawi ndi nthawi m'malo mwake, kumatenga udindo waukulu "mutu" wathu. Mfundo yayikuluyi ikugwirizana ndi kuvomereza kwake koyenera, kukwanira. Kotero, mwachitsanzo, kumverera kwa njala kumakakamiza munthu kuganizira nthawi zonse zomwe akufuna kudya. Mpaka izi zokhutira, munthuyo adya kudya, nthawi zonse amaganizira za chakudya. Muzochitika izi, pali njira ziwiri zomwe mungathere kuti mutuluke. Mwachitsanzo, munauzidwa kuti mudathamangitsidwa. Inu mukuvutika maganizo, kugonjetsedwa ndi kwathunthu kuchoka ku nkhani zoterezi. N'zachidziwikire kuti mudzasiya kuganizira za chakudya. Chinthu chimodzi chokha chimangosintha m'malo mwake. Uwu ndikutuluka kunja kwawopambana. Zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito mkati mwake zimakhutira. Pankhani ya njala, kumapeto kwa mkati mwazimenezi ndikuti munthuyo adya ndi kukhuta.
Chikondi, monga chofunika kwambiri, chimafunikanso kuchoka ndipo chimafuna kukwaniritsa. Choncho, vuto la momwe tingapezere chikondi chosagonjetsedwa chimakhala bwino kwa ife. Chikondi chosasunthika chifukwa cha kusagwirizana kwake (chisoni pa pun) sichitha kutha. Mwamuna kapena mkazi anavomera kumverera kolephera. Popanda kulandira yankho kwa malingaliro awo, munthu sangathe kukhutira ndi zomwe ali nazo.
Mapeto akunja a chikondi chachikulu ndi chipulumutso cha mkhalidwe ndipo, mwa njira, mankhwala ochizira kwa wokondedwa wachikondi. Kuchokera kunja kumagwirizanitsidwa ndi kusintha mu chinthu chachikondi, ndiko kuti, mkazi (mwamuna) amagwera mu chikondi ndi mwamuna wina (mkazi wina). Koma, monga kunanenedwa kumayambiriro, kukomana ndi chinthu chopanda kukondana chidzabweretsa ululu chifukwa cha chikondi chosayembekezeredwacho. Munthu samamva zowawa ndi munthu amene safuna kugawana naye. Amavutika kuti akumbukire, chifukwa chakumverera kwake, amawalira. Koma palibe china.
Tiyeni tizimasuka
Chochita ndi momwe mungapirire chikondi chosagonjetsedwa, chomwe nthawi zambiri chimadzikumbutsa tokha-funso limene limakhudza ambiri. Chikondi chosasunthika chimatanthauza kuti malingaliro sanapeze chikhomo chamkati, chidziwitso ndi kukhutira. Kutsiliza kwa kunja kwa chikondi chosadziŵika, njoka, sizothandiza.
Kuchokera kumverera kosagwirizana komweko kumathandiza kuthetsa nthawi. Pamene akunena, zonse zimadutsa, ndipo izi zidzatha. Kulingalira kumatithandiza kufulumira njirayi.
Kotero, ngati izi ndi zotheka, ndiye kuti mukufunika kukumananso ndi chinthu chopanda kukondwa kamodzi. Izi ndizofunika kuti muyang'ane munthu "mwanjira yatsopano." Pano pali chikhalidwe chimodzi - kuyambira pa chikondi cholephera, mwina chaka chiyenera kudutsa, mwinamwake, simudzawona chilichonse chatsopano ndipo chidzangowonjezera mavuto anu.
Poyang'ana munthu amene simunamvepo naye, pokambirana ndi munthu uyu, inu, mosakayikira, mudzafunsa funso: "Ndipo ndapeza chiyani mmenemo?". Chowonadi ndi chakuti pamene chikondi chimatigwira ife, timapatsa chikondicho ndi makhalidwe omwe tikufuna kuwona mmenemo. Timamukonda munthuyo. Chabwino, tikakumana, timatsegula maso. Kumbukirani, mumamva chisoni osati kwa munthu mwiniwake, koma kumakumbukira, kukumbukira malingaliro (kukopa, kukondweretsa, malingaliro, kuvutika). Anthu onse, chirichonse chimene anganene, nthawi zina amakonda kuzunzika ndi kudzidandaula okha. Mwinamwake, ndizofunikira kuti ife tizindikire kusiyana pakati pa chimwemwe ndi kukhumudwa.
Ndikufuna kufotokoza mwachidule zonsezi pamwamba ndi mawu otsatirawa za chikondi chosagonjetsedwa: "Kusakondedwa ndi chabe kulephera, osati kukonda - ndi tsoka." Ganizirani.