Malingana ndi chiwerengero cha chiwerengero, masiku ano anthu 35 peresenti ya mabanja amasankha ukwati waumwini ku mgwirizano wovomerezeka. Zifukwa za zochitikazi ndizo zambiri: ufulu wa maubwenzi, kusunga pa ukwati ndi ena ambiri. Ngakhale zili choncho, ndi anthu ochepa okha omwe ali pabanja, ganizirani kuti lamulo loti "mwamuna wamwamuna" mu malamulo omwe alipo tsopano salipo. Tiyeni tiyesetse kumvetsetsa nkhaniyi yovuta ya maubwenzi a banja ndikuzindikiranso mavuto amene amayi omwe amakhala m'banja lawo angakumane nawo.
Lingaliro la "ukwati wachikwati"
Lingaliro la "ukwati wachikwati" likuwonekera masiku ano posachedwapa, ndipo zaka 25-30 zapitazo, anthu omwe amakhala mu chikwati chaboma ankaonedwa kuti ndi oyera kwambiri ndipo anawonekera m'njira iliyonse yomwe anthu amatha. Mawuwa adabwera ku dziko lathu lakumadzulo. Kusiyanitsa kwa banja lakumadzulo kwadziko, maukwati athu apachiweniweni saloledwa kulembedwa mwa njira iliyonse. Palibe lamulo limodzi lomwe limateteza ufulu wa mwamuna kapena mkazi wachibadwidwe. Ngakhale kukwatirana ndi boma, kugonjetsedwa ndi mafashoni, anthu ambiri pambuyo pa zana Amakumana ndi mavuto aakulu.
Ukwati Wachibadwidwe - chifukwa ndi kutsutsana
Amayi amasiku ano amatha kunena kuti ambiri amavomereza kuti azikwatirana paokha, ndikugonjera pempho lawo. Mosiyana ndi amuna, abambo 90% okana zachiwerewere amakana kukhazikitsa chiyanjano, osakwatirana kale. Ukwati wa chikhalidwe cha anthu uli ndi ubwino ndi zoipa, koma monga zionetsero, gawo la mkazi limapeza minuses, osati pluseses.
Zotsatira za chikwati cha boma:
- mwayi wokhala ndi chibwenzi muukwati malinga ngati n'kotheka;
- mwayi pa nthawi iliyonse kuti asiye kugonana ndikuchoka;
- kusakhala ndi udindo uliwonse kwa mwamuna wamwamuna;
- N'zotheka kuyang'ana mwamunayo chifukwa cha zizoloŵezi zosasangalatsa ndi kusawapirira;
- mwayi wochita "ndondomeko" ya moyo wa banja, ganizirani zolakwa zonse kuti zisawapitirizebe.
Kuipa kwaukwati wa chikwati:
- posakhalitsa, chikondi choyambirira chimachoka ku maubwenzi, ndipo anthu okwatirana amakhala ndi chizolowezi chofanana cha banja;
- kawirikawiri kumverera kusakhutira;
- kusowa mtendere mu ubale ndi mwamuna wamwamuna;
- N'zotheka kudalira mwamuna kapena mkazi wake;
- kusowa chiyembekezo ndi mapulani ogwirizana a tsogolo;
- Kusatetezeka kwalamulo kwa mkazi paukwati.
Chikwati ndi ana
Mukalowa m'banja, anthu amakonda kuganiza mozama za ana. Ichi ndi chifukwa chakuti poyamba mtundu uwu wa ubale ukuwoneka ngati chinthu chosakhalitsa komanso wosakhulupirika. Komabe, tsogolo lingathe kutaya njira ina ndi kubadwa kwa mwana mukwati lachilendo si zachilendo. Ndipo, zomvetsa chisoni, nthawi zambiri mwanayo amakhala chifukwa cha kusagwirizana kwakukulu pakati pa okwatirana pabanja lawo.
Popeza kuti ubalewu sunalembedwe mwalamulo, mimba imakhala chifukwa cha kupuma kwa mabanja ambiri. Kwa mwamuna wamwamuna, mwana wamtsogolo sangakhale wofunikira ndipo mkaziyo, panthawiyi, amakhalabe "pa bwalo losweka" ndi ndalama zochepa.
Kulembetsa mwana wobadwa m'banja lachikhalidwe sikovuta. Mayi anga akhoza kapena sangasonyeze bamboyo mu kalata. Komanso, podziwa yekha, amasankha dzina la mwana wobadwa m'banja.
Mayiyo ali ndi mwayi wopeza kukhoti kulipira kulipira kwa mwamuna wamwamuna. Koma njirayi imatenga nthawi yochuluka ndi mitsempha, ndipo ikhoza kuganiziridwa osati kwa mayiyo.