Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale wosungulumwa?

Nthawi yake imakwera khitchini, ndipo pompu madzi akungoyamba, mau ndi phokoso la magalimoto amamveka kunja kwawindo, ndipo mau okhawo amamveka kuchokera pa TV. Pafupifupi kotero n'zotheka kukoka dziko lozungulira la munthu yekhayo. Maganizo akuti anthu omwe ali pafupi nanu ali osiyana ndi mavuto anu, aliyense ali wotanganidwa ndi zochitika zake ndipo dziko silimodzi yemwe mungayanjane nawo mavuto, zedi, kamodzi pa moyo wanu aliyense. Koma anthu ena dziko lino amabwera ndipo pafupifupi nthawi yomweyo amatha. Ndipo kwa wina amakhala kwa zaka kapena ngakhale akhoza kusamutsidwa kupyolera mu moyo. Nchifukwa chiyani munthu amasungulumwa ndi momwe angayesere kukhala yekha? Mafunso awa akhala akuwongolera nthawi yaitali. Koma ngati mumvetsetsa, mudziko lino palibe choopsa. Pamodzi ndi iye n'zotheka kukhala ndi moyo, ngati sikusokoneza, kapena kuchotsa, ngati simungathe kupirira.

Nchifukwa chiyani mukusowa kusungulumwa?

Mu psychology, boma limene munthu akumverera kusungulumwa lagawidwa mu mitundu iwiri:

1. Chikhalidwe. Zikuwonekera pa nthawi yomwe palibe wina woti aitane kapena kuyitanitsa, abwenzi apita kumidzi yosiyana, mabwenzi ambiri ali ndi mabanja, ndipo ntchito ili kwinakwake m'nkhalango kapena paulonda.
2. Zilipo. Munthu akhoza kukhala ndi abwenzi ochuluka, iye mwiniyo amatha kukhala moyo wa kampani komanso munthu woyembekezera nthawi zonse. Koma zonsezi zikuwoneka ngati zovuta. Wokondwa kunja, munthu yemwe akusamba ali ndi kusungulumwa kwathunthu ndi kuzindikira kuti weniweni wake sanawonekere ndipo samakayikira chomwe iye ali. Mkhalidwe wotere ukhoza kukhala wautali kwa nthawi yaitali, chifukwa anthu safuna kudziyanjanitsa ndi kusungulumwa, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti nthawi zambiri amapita kwa anthu kuti amwetse zochitika zamkati.

Tsopano tiyeni tiyang'ane mbali ya filosofi ya funsolo. Anthu ambiri, kwa nthawi yoyamba kuganizira za momwe angakhalire okha, amapanga tsoka lenileni pamkhalidwe wawo. Komabe, ndi bwino kukumbukira kuti munthu anabadwa yekha, ndipo musanayambe kulankhulana bwino ndi dziko lakunja, muyenera kupeza mgwirizano ndi inu nokha. Afilosofi nthawi zonse amapitiriza mobwerezabwereza za kusungulumwa monga gawo la kukhalapo ndi phindu la chilengedwe. Komabe, munthu wamakono ndi cholengedwa kwambiri kudalira anthu. Ndipo pansi pa goli losungulumwa, monga lamulo, iwo omwe sali okonzeka, safuna, kapena sakudziwa anthu ena omwe amadzizungulira okha. Aliyense amene akuganiza za kuthetsa kusungulumwa, kwenikweni, alibe kanthu kuti asiye kusungulumwa. Iye sakudziwa phindu limene anthu angabweretse, ali ndi tsankho kwa ena ndipo amayembekezera zinthu zoipa zokhazokha kumbali zawo. Ambiri mwa mphamvu za anthu oterewa amayenera kumvetsa chifundo ndi umunthu wa munthu. Zotsatira za malingaliro ameneŵa payekha ndi dziko ndizokhalitsa, kusasamala ndi zambiri. Kwenikweni, munthuyo ndi khalidwe lake amanyengerera ena kuti asakhale naye, ndikudandaula kuti palibe amene akusowa. Koma pali zifukwa zambiri ndi mitundu ya umunthu. Iwo ali ndi chinthu chimodzi chofanana: Kukhala kunja kwa anthu ndizosatheka ndipo kumachititsa mantha.

Kodi mungathetse bwanji mantha a kusungulumwa?

"N'zosangalatsa kwambiri kuti zimatikwiyitsa, kulowa mu thukuta la chisangalalo ndi phwando, kuopa kuti tidzakhalanso m'chipululu cha dziko lathu lapansi." Quatrain iyi imakhudza pafupifupi munthu aliyense. Kuopa kukhala ndekha, opanda banja, opanda achibale, popanda kuthandizidwa - ndizochita zachilengedwe zodzipulumutsa munthu wamakono. Ndipo chifukwa cha chifuniro ndi khalidwe, aliyense amasinthasintha maganizowa m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Winawake, akutsatira mawu a Omar Khayyam, amakonda kukhala "wopanda wina". Ndipo wina ndi kampani yokayikira pamsewu amakhala okondwa kale. Kuwombera kochuluka kumachita miyoyo yawo anthu amapereka chifukwa choopa kukhala opanda thandizo, chithandizo ndi kuyankhulana. Ndipo komabe, ngati kumverera kotere sikungatheke, kodi munthu angasiye bwanji mantha a kusungulumwa?

Ndi zophweka. Popeza kuti kulimbana ndi kusungulumwa, poyamba kulengedwa mwachibadwidwe monga chikhalidwe chachilengedwe cha munthu, sikuti aliyense amatha, ndi bwino kuyang'ana kumverera kotere kuchokera kumbali inayo. Kwa nthawi yaitali anthu adakakamizika kupyolera mu ntchito. Ndipo tsopano, makolo amakono kuyambira ali aang'ono amayesera kusunga tsiku la ana awo osiyanasiyana, magawo, ndi zina zotero. kotero kuti alibe nthawi ya "zopanda pake zamtundu uliwonse." Ndipo anthu ochepa pa nthawi ino amakumbukira kuti ndi kofunikira kuti munthu akhale yekha ndiyekha komanso maganizo ake tsiku ndi tsiku. Anthu amaopa kusiya ndi kuganizira za iwo eni komanso dziko lawo lamkati. Pambuyo pake, ndiye chilichonse chimene amathawa chidzatsegulidwa ngati m'manja mwanu. Poganizira mmene mungapulumutsire kusungulumwa, muyenera kudzifunsa nokha funso lachiwiri - kodi ndikuyenera kudandaula? Mwina ndi bwino kudzifunsa kuti mungasangalale bwanji kukhala nokha? M'magazini iyi padzakhala choonadi chowona. Kuti musadandaule zakumverera kotere, ndi bwino kukumbukira kuti kudzipatula kuchokera kudziko lina ndikubisa ndi kufunafuna chidziwitso chanu sikungayambitse kuonekera kwa anthu omwe ali pafupi komanso omvera. Kuti muchite izi, ndifunikanso kuthetsa lingaliro la mwiniwake yekha ndikupita kukafunafuna mgwirizano, osati ndi dziko lanu lamkati, komanso ndi malo akunja. Ndipo apo padzakhala pali ena "osungulumwa", omwe mwina alibe kutentha kwanu.