Kudzidzimva kwa umunthu

Kodi munayamba mwadzifunsapo kuti anthu otchuka apambana bwanji? Nchiyani chinawawononga iwo? Ndipo n'chiyani chinapangitsa kuti apambane? Ngati inde, ndiye kuti nkhaniyi ndi yapadera kwa inu.

Kudzizindikira pa moyo kumakhala ndi ntchito yofunikira. Pambuyo pake, ndi njira yowululira luso lobisika ndi luso la munthu, kumtsogolera ku moyo wabwino ndi wosangalala wochuluka. N'zoona kuti ndalama si cholinga chachikulu chodzizindikiritsa, chifukwa kukhutira komwe munthu amapindula, kuzindikira momwe angakwanitsire, kumatanthauza zambiri kuposa kungokhala kophweka.

Vuto la kudzidzimva kumachitika kwa munthu kuyambira ubwana ndikukumana naye nthawi zonse. Mwamwayi, iwo okha sachita mantha ndi kuwagonjetsa, ndikofunikira kugwira ntchito mwakhama.

Mwachizoloŵezi, pali njira zambiri za kudzizindikiritsa, koma m'moyo muli zingapo zomwe zimaonedwa ngati zofunika, tsopano tizitiuza za iwo.

1. Kudzidzimva kudzidzimutsa ndipamwamba kwambiri pa chitukuko cha umunthu muzochita zamalonda. Kudzidzimva kudzidzimutsa kwa umunthu kudzakuthandizani kudziwa chomwe chiri "moyo wanu" uno komanso kudzakuthandizani kwambiri kuti mugwirizane ndi ntchito inayake.
2. Kulenga kudzikonda ndi mwayi woti mutsegule dziko lapansi ndi mbali yatsopano, yosadziwika, kudziwonetsera nokha ngati munthu wolenga komanso kukhala ndi ufulu pamene mukudziwona nokha kuchokera mkati. Monga lamulo, mtundu wa kudzizindikiritsa nokha ndi wophweka komanso wofikira, koma izi sizili zonsezi. Zimakhulupirira kuti mothandizidwa ndi chidziwitso munthu akhoza kukhala wosangalala komanso kukhazikitsa ubale ndi umunthu wake.

Zovuta kwambiri kuti vuto la kudzidzimva ndilokha limayang'anizana ndi theka lofooka laumunthu, popeza m'mudzi mwathu kwa nthawi yaitali mkazi amaonedwa ngati woyang'anira malo, osati opeza. Komabe, kudzidzimva kwa amayi ndi kovuta kwambiri komanso njira yayitali kuposa amuna. Vuto ndilokuti kudzikonda kwa amayi kumapatsidwa zovuta ndipo nthawi zina zimakhala zosavuta kukana, osati "kudzikoka" paokha pakhomo pawokha.

Chosowa chodzizindikiritsa ndi chikhalidwe mwa aliyense wa ife. Tonsefe mphindi iliyonse ya moyo wathu tikulakalaka kupeza maluso ambiri komanso kukhala osangalatsa kwambiri kwa anthu. Winawake amatha kumasulira zilakolako kumoyo, ndipo wina watayika mu mantha awo ndi kukayikira, potero akumanga zolepheretsa zomwe nthawi zina sitingathe kudutsa. Ndikoyenera kukumbukira kuti zolakwika zomwe zimapangidwa ndi anthu ndi mdani wamkulu wa kudzizindikira ndi kukhala osangalala n'kofunika kuiwala za iwo kamodzi.