Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti manjawo amatha kunena zambiri za momwe munthu akumvera kuposa mawu ake, chifukwa nthawi zambiri timayambitsa thupi lathu mosadziŵa, pamakina, timagonjera mkati, ndipo sitingathe kuwongolera nthawi zonse. Choncho ndizothandiza kudziwa zomwe manja amatanthauza, mwachitsanzo, manja, kuti mumvetsetse momwe interlocutor wanu aliri, otseguka, odekha kapena osangalala, ndi zina zotero.
Kodi manja manja ndi palmalms zimatanthauza chiyani?
Manja amakhala pafupi nthawi zonse. Ndipo nthawi zonse amawakonda kwambiri pazoyankhulana. Ngati mdani wanu akudandaula kwambiri, ndiye kuti manja ndi manja ake sangawonongeke, mwinamwake, amapotoza chinachake m'manja mwake, akugwedeza chinachake, zinthu zogwira mtima, zovala zake, tsitsi lake, ndi zina zotero. Ndikofunika kudziwa zomwe manja akulankhula, pofuna kutanthauzira molondola khalidwe la munthu wina, osati kugwiritsira ntchito mawu okha.
Chizindikiro choyamba chomwe chinganene zambiri za munthu ndi moni womulonjera. Ngati iye ali wolamulira, iye adzatambasula dzanja lake poyamba, kuliyang'ana ilo ndi dzanja lake. Pofuna kusonyeza ulemu wapadera komanso ngakhale antchito, anthu amatambasula manja awo, akuyang'ana pansi ndi nthiti. Ovomerezeka, osatsutsana ndi wotsutsa, mwinamwake, angakupatseni dzanja, atatembenuzidwa. Mu munthu wosatetezeka, munthu wofooka, dzanja lidzasokonekera ndi lolunjika, ndipo kugwirana chanza kuli kofooka.
Manja ena manja ndi tanthauzo lake:
- anthu nthawi zambiri amatambasula manja awo kumbali ndikuwonetsa manja awo - ndi oona mtima ndipo amakhala omasuka kulankhula;
- m'manja ndi palmu, m'malo mwake, lankhulani za tcheru komanso osakonzekeratu;
- Mitundu ya kanjedza ikulumikizana wina ndi mzake amayankhula za kudzidalira kwa wokondana;
- manja mu matumba, makamaka ngati munthuyo akhala panthawi yomweyo - chizindikiro cha nkhanza ndi kusakwiya;
- manja akuyenda, munthu nthawi zonse akung'amba tsitsi, akukhudza nkhope yake, ndi zina zotero. Iye akuyesera kunama;
- munthu akuphimba pakamwa pake ndi dzanja lake - sagwirizana ndi inu, koma samayesa kutsutsa;
- zida zowongoka kwa wina ndi mzake - chizindikiro cha zolinga ndi zolimba pakuyankhulana kwa anthu;
- Manjawa ali pamphepete mwa gome - wotsutsa akuyembekeza kupeza thandizo kuchokera kwa iwe;
- ma brushes ophwa - the interlocutor sakufuna mkangano , ndi wokonzeka kusemphana kulikonse;
- Dzanja limodzi limagwira dzanja lina - munthuyo sali wotsimikiza za zochita zake ndi mawu ake, koma amayesera kudzikweza yekha pamodzi.
Chizoloŵezi chofala kwambiri cha zala ndi tanthauzo lake
Pali zotchedwa zochitika zapadziko lonse, zomwe zimamveka bwino ndi anthu ochokera kudziko lonse lapansi. Ndipo nthawi zambiri amagwiritsa ntchito kuthana ndi vutoli. Ngakhale, komabe, ndi kofunikira kugwiritsa ntchito mosamala manja ena ndi zala, zomwe zimadziwika kwa Azungu, mwachitsanzo, mu Muslim ndi maiko ena. Pambuyo pazimenezi, pano akhoza kuchitidwa ngati osayenera.
Kotero chizindikiro chonse chodziŵika bwino "Chokongola" - chimphindi chophwanyika ndi chala chachindunji - kawirikawiri chiwonetsero cha kuvomerezedwa. Koma ku Brazil ndi m'mayiko a Chiarabu, zikutanthawuza kuti zimakhala zakuyanjana ndipo zimakhumudwitsa. Ku Japan, chizindikiro ichi chiyenera kumveka ngati funso lakuti "Ndichuluka bwanji?".
Tanthauzo la manja ena ndi zala zanu:
- kutsekedwa mu zala "zotseka" - kusonyeza kusagwirizana mwakachetechete ndi mawu anu, ngakhale ngati munthuyo akumwetulira, onetsetsani kuti amakana pempho lanu;
- zala zaikidwa mu chiwindi - chizindikiro choletsa kuzunza, mdani wanu akhoza kuwombera mphindi iliyonse;
- mapeto a zala zomwe zimapanga nyumba - chizindikiro cha chidaliro cha interlocutor payekha, amamva kuti ali apamwamba, ndipo mawu anu amachititsa manyazi kumwetulira.