Chimodzi mwa mitundu yovuta kwambiri yodalira ndi kudalira munthu. Izi zimadziwika bwino kwa amayi omwe amamangidwa kwambiri pa wokondedwa. Momwe mungachotsere chizolowezi kwa munthu chidzapangitsa uphungu wa akatswiri a maganizo.
Mmene mungachotsere kudalira amuna ndi maganizo ndi amuna
Kudalira kwa maganizo ndi maganizo pa amuna ndi khalidwe la amai osakayikira, osowa thandizo ndi chisamaliro. Kusakanikirana ndi maganizo a pathological ndi mwamuna kumapangitsa mkazi wofooka kale ngakhale oopsya komanso wamantha.
Dziwani kuti kudalira kwa mkazi pa mwamuna kungakhale pazifukwa zotsatirazi:
- kusoweka kwa chidwi m'mbali zonse za moyo zomwe palibe munthu alipo;
- zokwanira "kusokonezeka" mwa wokondedwa;
- nkhanza ndi kusakayikira kuti mkazi wina akufuna kutenga mwini wake;
- nsanje yoipa, kufufuza nthawi zonse, kuyitana, SMS;
- mantha;
- maganizo "kuswa" ngati wokondedwayo sali pafupi;
- kusamvetsetsa kwa munthu, kulungamitsidwa kwa zoyipa kwambiri pazochita zake;
- kusakhala mu ubale wa chimwemwe chopatsa moyo, chomwe chimapereka chikondi chenicheni chokha, mkazi amasangalala ndi zowawa zake.
Akazi amene adzizindikira okha mu zizindikiro zimenezi akulangizidwa kuti ayambe kuchotsa kudalira amuna. Komabe, gawo lovuta kwambiri ndi kuzindikira kuti pali vuto. Mayi wodalirika amayamba kukayikira, ndi kumuthandiza kupanga chisankho kwa achibale ake, omwe ayenera kunena kuti ubalewo umangotengedwa ndi mavuto okhaokha ndipo umapangitsa kuti moyo ukhale wolimba .
Mkazi akamadziwa kuti chidwi chake chimasinthidwa kwa mwamuna, ayenera kuyesa chiyanjano ndikumvetsetsa zomwe zikhalidwe za amuna zimayambitsa kudalira kwake. Phunzirani izi kudzathandiza ndi kusanthula maubwenzi akale, tk. Kufuna kudalira amai nthawi zambiri amasankha mtundu winawake wa amuna.
Ngati mkazi sakufuna kugawanika ndi mwamuna uyu, ayenera kufotokoza momveka bwino malire ake, kuonjezera kudzidalira kwake , kuchotseratu zowonongeka za maganizo. Gawo lofunika ndikulankhula ndi mwamuna, kutulutsa zinthu zonse zosafunika, zinthu zomwe zimamuzunza.
Chinthu chotsiriza chomwe mkazi wodalirika ayenera kuchita ndi kudzipeza yekha. Ndipo mfundo iyi ndi yovuta komanso yovuta kwambiri. Ndikofunika kuyang'ana ubale wodalirika ndikuzindikiritsa zonse zomwe iwo amaletsedwa: maphunziro mumzinda wina, kuyenda ndi abwenzi, ubale wabwino ndi abwenzi ndi achibale. Mayi ayenera "kujambula" fanizo la iyemwini ndi kuyesetsa kuti akhale thupi. Ndipo, moyenera, kupeŵa amuna, kuchititsa kuti azidalira maganizo ake.