Kusayanjanitsika ndi khalidwe losasamala chilichonse chomwe chimachitika kwa munthuyo mwiniwake komanso pafupi naye. Dzikoli likudziwika kuti palibe maonekedwe a munthu - munthu samva ululu chifukwa cha ululu, samadandaula za anthu oyandikana nawo, sasangalala ndi nyengo yabwino kapena kuntchito (kusukulu). Pofuna kuthana ndi anthu opanda chidwi, munthu ayenera kupeza ndi kuthetsa chifukwa chake, "kudzutsa" maganizo mwa mantha.
Mmene mungachitire ndi anthu opanda chidwi?
Yankho lake ndi lakuti munthu ayenera kuphunzira kudzilamulira yekha, kuti awone zinthu zabwino. Ndipotu, nthawi zambiri kusamvetsetsa kumachitika pambuyo pake. Mwachitsanzo, mtsikanayu ankafunitsitsa kupambana mpikisano wokongola - anali kudya, usana ndi usiku ankachita masewera olimbitsa thupi , adaphunzira kulankhula pagalasi, koma amatha kukhala malo omaliza. Pankhaniyi, amanjenjemera ndi mantha, chifukwa chakuti pali dontho lakuthwa m'maganizo ndipo dongosolo lamanjenje lafooka, ndiko kuti, kudzutsa kukhumudwa kulikonse, zowonjezera zofunika, ndipo mpikisano wokongola unali pafupifupi tanthauzo la moyo wake.
Kodi mungachiritse bwanji osasamala?
Kuchiza osasamala mwamsanga mutangoyamba kumene kuli kovuta kwambiri, ndipo chithandizo cha izi sizingatheke pomwepo. Ziyenera kukhala ndi nthawi yowonjezeretsa mphamvu ya mitsempha, chifukwa nthawi zonse ziwawa zimakhala ndi mahomoni ena, mapulogalamu amalandira zinthu zambiri zomwe zimawoneka bwino ndikusiya kuwayankha bwino.
Patapita kanthawi, dongosolo la mitsempha limachitanso kachiwiri kumalo osasinthika a hormonal ndipo nthaka yowonjezera imapangidwira kuti "kuwuka". Poyamba munthu amayamba kuchita chidwi ndi chinachake mwachangu ndipo nthawi zambiri amatengedwa ndi ntchito yosiyana kwambiri kuposa kale. Ndiye pang'onopang'ono zimagwirizanitsa ndi moyo woyandikana nawo, koma chidwi chokha kapena chikhumbo chokwaniritsa chinachake chidzabwezeretsa munthuyo ku njira yachizolowezi. Kotero kuchokera kudziko losasamala amayi amabwerera kumoyo wamba wa matenda aakulu a ana, ndipo kwa bwana wamalonda wolephera, chilimbikitso chokondwera ndi kulira chingakhale ntchito yothandizira zida kapena kusambira.
Momwe mungachitire osamvera, mufunse - ngati "akudwala" mmodzi mwa okondedwa anu. Choncho, musayese kukanikiza munthu wina, musapitirize kuopseza kapena kuopseza kupita kumsonkhano kapena kulowa mu tenisi. Ndi zoyesayesa zoterezi, mungangopangitsa munthu wanu wam'mudzi kukhala "wodzipatula." Sankhani njira yoyenera - yoyamba kuyembekezera, ndipo podziwonetsera koyamba, khalani ndi zolakwitsa zoyenera kapena ntchito zomwe zidzakwaniritse munthuyo. Ngati munthu ali wosasamala kwa nthawi yaitali (zoposa theka la chaka), ndiye pokhapokha pansi pa ndondomeko ndi kuyang'aniridwa ndi wodwalayo, wina angagwiritse ntchito mankhwala oopsya.