Kutamandidwa kwa munthu wokondedwa

Azimayi onse amagwiritsidwa ntchito podziwa kuti kuyamikira ndi mwayi wawo. Koma sitiganizira kawirikawiri kuti munthu wokondedwayo amatamandidwa komanso mawu okondweretsa ndi osangalatsa ngati ife. Mwamuna amafunikira kudzibwezeretsanso nthawi zonse, choncho tchulani mwamuna wanu wokondedwa nthawi zambiri momwe mungathere. Pambuyo poyamika moyenerera, iye adzachita ngati mwamuna weniweni.

Tsopano inu mukhoza kuganiza: "O, ine ndipita, ine ndikusanulira mayamiko abwino kwa mwamuna wanga wokondedwa, ndipo zokhumba zanga zonse zidzakwaniritsidwa mwamsanga." Koma ngati chirichonse chinali chophweka, ndiye nkhaniyi sichidzawoneka, yomwe ingakuuzeni mawu omwe ali ngati amuna komanso momwe angayendere mu zotsatira zoipa.

Bwanji kuti musalowe mu vuto?

Tiyenera kukumbukira nthawi zonse kuti timayamika woimira chilakolako chogonana, choncho ndikofunika kuti mawu osankhidwa amatsindikitse chikhalidwe chake komanso chiwawa. Mawu omwe timakonda kunena kwa amayi, pakadali pano, akhoza ngakhale kukhumudwitsa ulemu wa wosankhidwa wanu.

Mwinamwake, aliyense wa ife ankadabwa kuti ndi chiyamiko chotani kuti apange mnyamata. Timazindikira nthawi yomweyo kuti amuna ndi alangizi othandizira maganizo, ndipo nthawi yomweyo amamva kuyankhula mwachinyengo ndi malingaliro anu. Choncho, muyenera kumayamikira pamene ntchitoyo ikuyenera kuyamika. Ngati mutayamba kumangokhalira kuyamikira zinthu kuchokera pachiyambi, mukhoza kumunyozetsa munthu. Ndicho chifukwa chake n'kofunika kwambiri kutsatira malire awa.

Ngati munthu adyoza msomali kapena akuwombera babu, musawonongeke, makamaka, izi zidzasokoneza mbali yake. Choncho, ndi kofunikira kuti tiwunikire zochita zomwe zakupangitsani chidwi chanu, ngakhale kuti mwamunayo agwiritsira ntchito nthawi yochuluka pa izi kapena kuyambira nthawi yoyamba sanachite zonse zabwino, monga momwe tingafunire.

Makhalidwe achikazi, kapena "Wokondedwa, ndinu wokongola!"

Ndikofunika kusankha chisankho choyenera, chimene mudzakondweretsa mwamuna kapena chibwenzi chanu. Palibe vuto liyenera kunyoza, mawu anu ayenera kukhala oona mtima. Kumbukiraninso zachinyengo: Amuna amakonda kuchepa kwachinyengo, choncho peŵani kuyankhula kwakukulu, chinthu chachikulu - musati muwonongeke.

Kuwonjezera apo, mungagwiritse ntchito njira ina: ubwana waung'ono ndi kuyang'ana kosalakwa kwa mwana kumapangitsa chidwi cha wokondedwa wanu. Mwachitsanzo, yesetsani kubwera komanso ngati mwana, muzimukoka mwachikondi ndi kunena chinachake chophweka, koma moona mtima. Mwamunayo sangafune chidwi ndi zomwe mwadzidzidzi mudamukondweretsa, iye mwini akulota chifukwa chake mumamuuza choncho.

Ngati inu mumazitcha izo zodabwitsa, ndiye iye adzayesera kukhala okongola mu chirichonse. Choncho, kuyamika kwa munthu ndi chida champhamvu. Imeneyi ndi njira yabwino yoyesera khalidwe lake. Ngati muthokoza mwachifundo, mungathe kuona ngati ali ndi zosangalatsa, kaya ali wokwiya kapena ayi, adzasangalala.

Kuyamikira kwa mnyamata wokondedwa kungakhalenso njira yowonjezera. Ngati iye ali ndi chinachake chomwe sichiwonjezeka kapena iye sachimanga akufuna kuchita chinachake, musayambe kumukakamiza. Ndi bwino kuyesetsa kumuthandiza ndikumuuza mawu omwe angamulimbikitse komanso kumulimbikitsa kuti achite zambiri, mwachitsanzo: "Wokondedwa, ndikutsimikiza kuti palibe wina angakhoze kuchita izi koma iwe", "Ndikudziwa kuti udzapambana." Ndiye mwamunayo amayesera kuti adziwonetsere bwino momwe angathere kuti athe kuyembekezera zomwe akuyembekezera.

Chofunika kwambiri - musaiwale kuti kuyamika kumabwera kuchokera mumtima, kuchokera pamtima. Muyenera kumverera mwachidwi kwa munthuyo, mwinamwake kuyesayesa kwanu konse kudzakhala kopanda pake, ndipo bodza lidzaululidwa.