Mwatsoka, mkhalidwe pamene mkazi sakudziwa choti achite, pamene adayamba kukondana ndi wokwatira, si zachilendo. Ambiri mwaubwino wokondana samadziwa momwe angathetsere vuto lomwelo ndikusiya kudzizunza nokha.
Bwanji ngati ndimakonda mwamuna wokwatira?
Choyamba, sankhani ngati mwakonzeka kusiya maganizo anu, kapena, mukufuna kuti muwononge banja lake kapena kukhala ambuye, malingana ndi yankho lanu, muyenera kukhala ndi khalidwe labwino.
Tidzafufuza zonse zomwe tingachite ngati mutagwirizana ndi mwamuna wokwatiwa.
Njira imodzi - mukufuna kuiwala chirichonse. Pachifukwa ichi, kutha kwa moyo wa mnyamatayo kwamuyaya, musanene mwachabe "osawona - kunja kwa malingaliro", yesetsani:
- Lembani nthawi yanu yonse yaulere. Ziribe kanthu zomwe mumadzichita nokha, chofunika kwambiri, musagone pabedi ndipo musamavutike.
- Zindikirani mmene mumamvera. Kukana kukonda, munthu amakhala ndi maganizo osiyanasiyana, kudzimvera chisoni, kuchepetsa kudzidalira, mkwiyo, mkwiyo ndi zina zambiri. Awalankhuleni mwa kuyankhula ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, mnzanu wapamtima kapena muzolemba zokha.
- Musadziteteze nokha kutulutsa zoipa. Mukufuna kulira-kufuna kulira mbale - kumenya. Chinthu chokha chimene simukusowa kuchita ndi kukhala mwachinyengo ndi kufotokoza malingaliro anu kwa okondedwa anu, ndiye pamene zatha, simungadzitamande chifukwa cha khalidweli.
Njira ziwiri, mwakonzeka kulimbana. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amapereka malangizo otsatirawa pa zomwe angachite kwa mkazi yemwe akuti - ndimakonda mwamuna wokwatiwa ndipo sindikana kukana:
- Muyenera kukhala maonekedwe a makhalidwe omwe amamukonda atsikana, kumbukirani kuti akudziyerekezerani ndi mkazi wake mosamvetsetseka, ndipo kuyerekezera kumeneku kuyenera kukuthandizani.
- Yambani kukhazikitsa ubale wapamtima ndi munthu, pezani chinthu chofanana kapena chokondweretsa naye. Nthawi yochuluka yomwe mumagwirana pamodzi ndi kulankhulana, zimapambana chiwerengero cha kukhulupirirana kwanu komanso kumudziwa kuti mumagawana malingaliro ake pa moyo.
- Musatembenuke kukhala bwenzi, nthawi zonse muzigogomezera ubale wanu ndi chikhalidwe chake, mwinamwake mungasokonezeke kukhala "chibwenzi chanu."