Kodi mungabwezere bwanji munthu?

Zowonongeka kawirikawiri chifukwa chomaliza chiyanjano kukhalabe mabwenzi, zowonjezereka zoterezi sizingatheke, ngati kupumula kukuchitika chifukwa cha chiwembu. Ndipo ndi chiyani chimene chiyenera kuchitidwa, kuti asabwezere choipa kwa munthu wakale kuti apereke chiwembu, chifukwa cha kupweteka kumene kunayamba chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika? Ayi, ndithudi, pali njira ina yowonjezera - kukhululukira ndi kumasula, koma zikuwoneka kuti ife nthawi zambiri sizilandiridwa, makamaka pamene mkwiyo ndi kupsa mtima zimaphika m'magazi.

Ndiye mungatani kuti mubwezeretse munthu amene wasiya? Choyamba, muyenera kudziwa ngati pali chilakolako chochiwona m'moyo wanu kapena kuti mutha kusokoneza chiyanjano chanu. Ngati pali chiyembekezo chobwezeretsa chiyanjano, kubwezera sikungakhale njira yabwino kwambiri, kotero mutha kumutsimikizira munthuyo kuti ali ndi chigamulo chotsutsana naye. Ndipo momwe mudasankhira kuti simudzakhala ndi tsogolo labwino, ndipo ngati chilakolako chobwezera chiwonongeko sichitawonongeke, ndiye tikukonzekeretsa munthu wakale "moyo wosangalatsa."

Njira zobwezeretsera munthu

1. Kumenya pa mtengo wotsika kwambiri. Mwamuna aliyense ali ndi "zidole" zomwe zimakonda kwambiri mtima wake - makompyuta, galimoto, zojambula zomwe amakonda. Zomwe tingachite ndi iwo timabwerako mwachindunji, koma timachita kuti mawonekedwe a chinthucho asasokonezeke.
2. Mwinamwake wanu wakale ndi wotanganidwa ndi ntchito komanso mbiri yanu? Kotero ndiyenera kuwononga. Mwachitsanzo, kulankhulana mtima ndi chibwenzi ndi chikho cha tiyi tiwone zinsinsi zonse za "woopsa". Kapena muzipanga zithunzi zake pamalo ochezera a pa Intaneti.
3. Kodi wanu wakale ali ndi abwenzi? Ndiye mwinamwake ndibwino kumuchotsera iye mmodzi wa iwo? Ayi, si za kuwonongeka kwa thupi, ndizolemba ndi mnzanu wapamtima.
4. Kodi mukudziwa chilakolako chamakono cha chibwenzi chanu pachiyambi? Mukhoza kukambirana naye momasuka, wachifundo, ngati bwenzi la tsoka. Mbaya, mwamuna wabwino kwambiri, koma kale samadzipweteka yekha ndipo amachotsedwa, msungwanayo atangoona, kotero n'zosatheka kusunga mphamvu iliyonse. Ndiye, ndithudi, kubwerera, kulapa, koma nthawi zina zimakhala zotopetsa, kotero zimagawanika. Chabwino, inde, ndiwe amene anali woyambitsa phokoso, ndipo sanakusiye.
5. Kodi palibenso chikhumbo chowonetsera ubale wabwino ndi chizolowezi chatsopano cha chibwenzi chake? Ndiye tifunikira kugwira nthawi yomwe tidzakhala pamodzi, makamaka pamalo odzaza, ndikudziwitse mokweza za kusalidwa kwake, ngati anthu (kamodzi nthawi imodzi, ndipo nthawi zambiri sikofunikira).

Chabwino, mwapeza bwanji njira yokhala yokongola kapena kungakhale nkhanza kubwezera chibwenzi chakale? Ayi, ndiye mwinamwake kupweteka ndi kupsinjika zakhala zikuchepa pang'ono ndipo mumatha kusinkhasinkha mwakachetechete? Tawonani, njira zonsezi zapamwamba zingakupangitseni nthawi yambiri zosasangalatsa, koma sangakuyike bwino. Inde, ndi buku lokhala ndi cholinga chobwezera, silingathe kukubweretsani inu maganizo abwino, mwinamwake iye adzasiya kuseri ndi kukhumudwa ndi kupusa kwake ndi kusaganizira. Ndiye kodi ndi bwino kudzipunthwitsa, mwinamwake kuyesa kukhala wopanda munthu uyu? Ndipo kukhala moyo kotero kuti mwamsanga zinamveka kwa iye kuti ntchito yake inangokumasulani inu ku nsonga, inakulolani kuti mukhale omasuka. Inde, tidzayenera kuyesetsa. Mwachitsanzo, sankhani chithunzichi, lembani ku masewero olimbitsa thupi kapena mukhale ndi zokonda zomwe zakhala zikukhudzidwa kale, koma mwanjira ina manja sanafike. Zidzakhala bwino kusankha zosangalatsa, komwe mumapatsidwa gulu la amuna. Mwa njira, pamene wachibwenzi wanu wakale anali pafupi, kodi mumaganiza za ntchito? Ndithudi ayi, tsopano ino ndiyo nthawi. Ndipo abwenzi aakazi, mwakhala mukupita kwinakwake palimodzi, misonkhano ya mphindi 10 pa khofi panthawi yopuma masana siidalingaliridwa. Ndipo ndithudi, musadzikane nokha chisangalalo chotero, monga kukumana ndi anzanu atsopano. Inde, munthu mmodzi amachita zosakhulupirika kwa inu, koma izo sizikutanthauza kuti aliyense ali monga choncho.

Kodi mudzafunsa kuti kubwezera kuti? Choncho njira yabwino kwambiri komanso yowononga kubwezera munthu wamanyazi ndiyo kusonyeza kuti popanda iye simukukhala moyipa kwambiri, kapena mwinamwake kulibwino. Thandizani kutuluka kwanu ndi kuwona ndi zithunzi kuchokera kumaphwando, omwe amaikidwa muzithunzi zamanema.