Kuchokera pa nthawi yobadwa kwake, munthu amapyola muyeso yosiyanasiyana ya chitukuko cha thupi ndi nzeru, zomwe mosakayikitsa, ndizofunikira kwambiri pa chisinthiko chake monga nthumwi za mtundu wa Homo Sapiens. Koma chofunika kwambiri kwa aliyense payekha ndizo njira zopangidwira ndi kukula kwa umunthu , popeza zimadalira payeso ya mgwirizano wa maubwenzi ake ndi malo oyandikana nawo, komanso ndi gulu lonse lathunthu.
Zonse zimayambira ali mwana
Tonsefe timabwera kudziko lapansili ndi zida za ma genetic zokonzedweratu, zomwe zizindikiro zonse za chitukuko chathu zimayikidwa, koma cholinga cha munthu chimatsimikiziridwa ndi ndondomeko izi zapangidwe ka umunthu, zomwe tikuyenera kudutsa, kuyambira nthawi yomwe ife tikuyamba kuzindikira " Ine "ndi kuyesa kudziwa malo awo pansi pa dzuwa.
Mwachibadwidwe, chirichonse chimayambira mu ubwana ndi maubwenzi omwe mwanayo ali nawo ndi makolo ake komanso ndi ena a m'banja lake. Ngakhale zili choncho, maziko a umunthu wa munthu amatha kukhazikitsidwa ndipo kuchokera m'malingaliro omwe iye amaleredwa, m'zinthu zambiri zimadalira ngati iye adzakhalanso wolimba ndi wodziimira yekha, wokhoza kutsogolera ena ndikukaniza kuwonongeka kulikonse kwa zovuta, kapena kukhala wofooka, wosasunthika yomwe idzachita mantha nthawi iliyonse yomwe idzadzipange yekha.
Amaphunzira kuchokera ku zolakwa
Palibe njira zophweka m'moyo, monga momwe zimadziwira, ndipo ndondomeko yakukhala munthu sizodziwika. Dzikumbutseni nokha mu ubwana ndi unyamata. Kodi ndi angati a cones amene mumakweza pamene mudatha kudziwonetsera nokha ndi ena kuti ndinu ofunika komanso kuti mukuyenera kuwerengera. Koma bizinesi iyi sinathe pomwepo. Ngakhale kuti 80% ya "scaffolding" yaikulu ya "I" yathu imapangidwa ali ndi zaka 3 mpaka 15, kupangidwa kwa umunthu wa munthuyo kumapitirira mtsogolo (ngakhale kuti ndi pang'onopang'ono), ndipo palibe malire ofotokozedwa a mapeto a nthawi ino . Pazochitika zonsezi, ndizo zawo. Anthu amasintha ndi ukalamba. Timaphunzira kuchokera ku zolakwitsa zathu ndikupeza zochitika pamoyo wathu, kuyesera kuti tikulitse ubale wambiri ndi omwe atizungulira. Ndipo moyo wathu wonse umadalira makamaka makhalidwe omwe timakhala nawo ndi maluso ati ogwirizana ndi dziko lino omwe tapeza mu chikhalidwe chauzimu ndi kapangidwe ka umunthu.
Kodi pali kusankha?
Ena amakhulupirira molakwitsa kuti chitukuko chathu chimangodalira kokha kuchitidwa kunja, ndipo kumakhala momwe munthu amakhala, kumadziŵiratu khalidwe lake la m'tsogolo ndi makhalidwe onse a maganizo. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, ngati munabadwira m'banja la achifwamba kapena zidakwa, ndiye kuti muli ndi njira imodzi yokha: kaya ku ndende kapena kubwalo lapafupi. Ndipotu, sizinthu zophweka. Zoonadi, chitsanzo cha makolo ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri zomwe zimakhudza chikhalidwe cha umunthu wa munthu aliyense. Koma pambuyo pa zonse, ufulu wosankha, womwe wapatsidwa kwa ife mwachibadwa, sunachotsedwe. Kodi tanthauzo la chisinthiko cha mitundu yonse ndi chiyani? Kupulumuka ndi amphamvu kwambiri. Kotero, iye yemwe angathe kuzindikira kusiyanitsa wakuda ndi zoyera ndikusankha njira yoyenera ya kukula kwake monga membala wa anthu, adzapeza mwayi wopambana moyo, ngakhale kuti "katundu" wosagwira ntchitoyo akupezeka.
Kumvetsetsani ndi kuneneratu
Nkhani zofananazi zikufotokozedwa motsogoleredwa ndi chithandizo cha sayansi monga psychology ya kupanga umunthu wa munthu, omwe amalingalira ndi kufotokoza zonse zabwino ndi zolakwika pa moyo ndi chilengedwe cha munthu wina, chifukwa chake zimatheka kumvetsetsa zolinga zake za zochita zake. Njira zoterezi zimagwiritsidwa ntchito pokhapokha pa ntchito ya psychoanalysis wamba ndi matenda a maganizo, kulingalira zonse zomwe zingakhudze kukula kwa umunthu, ndipo nthawi zina zimayambitsa njira za matenda ena a m'maganizo.
Mulimonsemo, nkofunikira kukumbukira lamulo limodzi losasunthika: timadzipanga tokha.