Moyo wonse wa munthu ukuzunguliridwa ndi anthu ena, nthawi zonse iye ali pachiyanjano choyankhulana ndi anthu. Choncho, nthawi zambiri, pakuchita izi kapena kuchita, timayang'ana mmbuyo mwa anthu, ngakhale osadziŵa, kuyembekezera, ndikuopa kutsutsidwa pa mbali yake. Mwa ichi, ife tisadzizindikire tokha, tikhazikitse malire kwa ifeeni, kulepheretsa zikhumbo zathu ndi zochita zathu. Ndipotu nthawi zonse timayesa kutsutsa anthu, malo athu. Osati kuganizira za mfundo zomwe zakhazikitsidwa zolamulira moyo wathu ndi zosankha zathu.
Zowonongeka - uwu ndi mtundu wa msonkho kwa anthu pawokha. Ichi ndi chitsanzo cha khalidwe. Ambiri amapanga zolakwika zawo pokhapokha atatha kuvutika mobwerezabwereza mu bizinesi zina. Komanso anthu amachititsa kuti anthu azilankhulana momasuka.
Kwa kanthawi kochepa, maumboni amapangidwa. Anthu amalankhulana ndikugawana zochitika zawo, posakhalitsa amadzipeza okha ngati anthu amalingaliro. Ndiye khalidwe lawo labwino lingakhale lokhazikika pakapita kanthawi. Zosintha sizinaphunzire m'masukulu, sizilembedwe m'mabuku, koma m'moyo timagwiritsa ntchito mwakhama monga malo a makolo omwe alizikika m'maganizo mwathu.
Kodi chiyankhulo chimayamba bwanji?
Mafilimu oyankhulana amadza ndi kudziwana wina ndi mzake, omwe mu psychology psychology ali ndi tanthauzo lenileni. Monga lamulo, zochitika zamakono komanso zakhazikitsidwa zimayambira pazomwe zachitika kale chifukwa chopanga zolingalira zaumunthu, ngakhale zochepa zolemba. Kawirikawiri zimakhala zovuta zokhudzana ndi kugwirizana kwa munthu, mwachitsanzo, wake wa ntchito. Zotsatira zake ndizo, makhalidwe omwe adatchulidwa kale a munthu, omwe akuyimira ntchitoyi, amawoneka ngati makhalidwe omwe ali nawo m'gululi.
Zomwe zimayambitsidwa zimafala kuchokera ku mibadwomibadwo, zimakhala zolimba kwambiri moti nthawi zina zimadziwika kuti zimaperekedwa, monga zenizeni, monga zenizeni.
Zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito poyankhulana zimagawidwa m'magulu awiri:
- Zosasintha zapamwamba.
- Zozama.
Pansi pa gulu loyambirira kumvetsetsa malingaliro okhudza anthu ena, omwe amachokera ku mayiko ena, zochitika zandale kapena zochitika m'mbiri. Zosintha izi zimasintha kapena zimatha kukhalapo malingana ndi kukhazikika kwa anthu, pa zochitika zomwe zimakhudza mapangidwe a malingaliro pakati pa anthu ambiri. Phunziro la zochitika zoterezi, akatswiri a mbiriyakale, ndi iwo omwe ali ndi chidwi ndi ndondomeko zandale ndi ndale za anthu, ali ndi chidwi pa malo oyamba.
Zochitika zozama sizisintha. Iwo, poyerekeza ndi pamwamba, samasintha kwa nthawi inayake. Iwo ali okhazikika ndipo ali ofunika kwambiri pakuphunzira za makhalidwe a chikhalidwe cha dziko. Zomwe anthu amakhulupirira zimatha kufotokozedwa ngati chinthu choipa chomwe chimalepheretsa kumvetsetsa bwino, osati kusokoneza.
Zifukwa zomwe zimayambira pazilankhulo zosiyana, ndizosiyana, zimasiyana. Koma chifukwa chofunikira kwambiri ndikuteteza kuti maganizo a munthu apangidwe pofuna kuteteza ubongo kuchoka ku chidziwitso, chimene chikuwonjezeka nthawi zonse. Ngati kulibe chitetezo choterocho, chidziwitso chidzasokonezeka ndi kuwonongeka kwa chiweruzo chamtengo wapatali.
Zitsanzo za zolakwika
Zizindikiro ndizofunika kwambiri pa chikhalidwe cha anthu ambiri. Zimapangidwa pamaziko a:
- Ukalamba (mwachitsanzo, "Achinyamata amangomva").
- Paulo ("Anthu onse amafunika kugonana okha").
- Mitundu ("A Japan onse ali pa nkhope yomweyo").
- Zipembedzo ("Islam ndi chipembedzo chauchigawenga").
- Mitundu ("Ayuda onse ndi adyera").
Chitsanzo chofala kwambiri cha zotsutsana za kulankhulana ndi "Blondes ndi opusa."
Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti kafukufuku nthawi zonse amapereka chidziwitso m'njira yodziwika bwino komanso yosavuta, komanso, zomwe zimapangitsa munthu kusokoneza munthu ngati sizigwirizana ndi zenizeni zake. Kuti musankhe nokha, kaya mukhulupirire malingaliro a ambiri, muzinthu zosiyana kapena kuti mumvere maganizo anu pa wina kapena chinachake.