Pali lingaliro lakuti amuna samakonda akazi anzeru. Ngakhale kuti amawopa iwo, amapewa ndipo safuna kukhala nawo zofanana. Ndichifukwa chake amasankha asungwana opusa. Koma ndikuti kuti akafike kwa azimayi ochenjera ndipo kodi ndizo zoona? Tiyeni tiyese kupeza.
Kafukufuku amasonyeza kuti anthu ambiri (pafupifupi 35%) amaganiza kuti malingaliro a amayi ndi abwino, pomwe panthawi imodzimodziyo amatsindika kuti akazi awo ayenera kukhala ochepetsetsa komanso omvera kwambiri maganizo awo. Ngati mukuganiza za izo, ndiye chifukwa cha kayendetsedwe ka akazi komwe kawirikawiri, amayi ambiri amavutika ndipo ziribe kanthu momwe amachitira zofanana ndi amuna, izi sizingatheke kupindula ndi wina aliyense. Poyamba, mwamuna amakwanitsa ntchito yake, ndipo mkazi wake, motsutsana ndi chilengedwe, sangathe kupondaponda, monga akunena. Kulimbana kosalekeza kwa malo pansi pa dzuwa kumangokhumudwitsa kumbali zonse ziwiri.
Nchifukwa chiyani amuna amaopa akazi abwino?
Ndi zophweka - mantha a kusagwirizana. Mkazi wanzeru nthawizonse, kulikonse ndi chirichonse pamlingo: ntchito, banja, moyo. Zangokhalapo kuti anyamata akuyenera kudziona kuti ndi apamwamba ndipo zikuwonekeratu kuti ngati samva bwino pafupi ndi msungwanayo, ndiye kuti sakulola kudziko lake. Choncho, amuna ofooka okha amaopa akazi anzeru. Ndipo akazi opusa okha - nthawi zonse amadziyesa kuti ali ochenjera kwambiri. Lingaliro mu nkhaniyi sili chizindikiro cha nzeru, koma nzeru.
Momwe mungakhalire mkazi wanzeru ndi wanzeru?
Kawirikawiri msungwana waluntha amakhala ndi udindo waukulu, samalola kuti azisangalala, nthawi zonse amasunga chilichonse. Koma nkofunika kukumbukira kuti ngakhale woimira amayi wochenjera kwambiri ayenera kukhala ndi zofooka zake zochepa: nthawi zina amapereka kumverera ndipo samagwira ntchito nthawi zonse. Ndipo ndithudi, ngati mkazi akufuna mnyamata ndipo ali womasuka palimodzi - amupatsa mitsempha yoyendetsa manja amphamvu a mzimayi, ndipo sadzalitcha malo apamwamba. Msungwana woteroyo adzatamanda wosankhidwa wake, funsani naye, musamadzudzule anthu, muzimverera muyeso muzonse ndikukhala okhutira.
Mkazi wanzeru ndi, makamaka, mkazi wanzeru. Ndipo mkazi woteroyo nthawizonse adzapeza mgwirizano pakati pa malingaliro ndi kupusa.