Kudzikonda

Pali anthu omwe amapyola mu moyo, samayang'ana pozungulira, ndipo sakuzindikira ena. Anthu oterowo samaganiza kuti ndi kovuta kwa iwo kuti amve mtima wa anansi awo, kuti adziyerekeze okha m'malo mwake. Komanso, nthawi zina, amakakamiza ena, kuyenda mofulumira, pamutu pawo, ndikuwona kuti ndi khalidwe lovomerezeka. Anthu oterewa ali ndiookha payekha, ziweruzo zawo komanso malingaliro awo. Chodabwitsa ichi chimatchedwa kuti egocentrism.

Kotero, kudzipereka si matenda aumaganizo, koma udindo wa munthu, womwe umadziwika ndi zokhazokha, zomwe mumawona, zofuna zanu, ndi zina zotero. Munthu wodalirika sangathe kuwerengera zomwe zimatsutsana ndi zochitika zake, kuphatikizapo kuchokera kwa ena. Izi zikutanthauza kuti kudziletsa ndikumatha kudziyika nokha m'malo mwa munthu wina, kusakhoza "kukhala mu khungu la wina," kukhala wosakhudzidwa ndi zofuna zake.

Zisonyezero za kudzipereka

Psychology imagwiritsa ntchito lingaliro la "kudzipereka" pambuyo poyambitsidwa ndi Jean Piaget kufotokoza malingaliro a ana omwe ali ndi zaka 8-10.

Kudzipereka kumaonekera momveka kuyambira ali mwana ndipo akugonjetsedwa ndi zaka 11-14. Koma, monga lamulo, mu ukalamba kuli kachizolowezi cholimbitsa mbali iyi ya kuganiza.

Kukhazikika m'mitima yosiyanasiyana kumapitirirabe mwa anthu ena komanso pa nthawi yokalamba kwambiri.

Timalemba mndandanda wa zifukwa zomwe zimakhudza ngati munthu angakhale wamkulu payekha kapena ayi:

1. Mwana yekhayo m'banja.
2. Wamng'ono kwambiri mwa abale kapena alongo.
3. Mwana wamng'ono.
4. Amayi opondereza.
5. Chikhumbo cha kusambira.
6. Malo otetezeka abwino akugwira ntchito kwambiri kusiyana ndi kumanzere.
7. Kusasamala kwa makolo, makamaka amayi, kwa mwanayo.
8. Zokhumudwitsa zakuthupi muunyamata.

Koma palibe chifukwa chimodzi chomwe sichiri chomaliza. M'zinthu zambiri, chiyambi cha chidziwitso mwa munthu, chimadalira makhalidwe ake a munthuyo mwiniwake.

Kudzikonda komanso kudzipereka

Ngakhale kuti anthu ambiri amaganiza, koma kudzipereka sikunenedwa kapena kufanana, kudzikonda. Kotero, mwachitsanzo, munthu wodalirika amamuwona kuti dziko loyandikana nalo liri ngati zovuta zotsutsana ndi malingaliro ake, chifukwa cha zake zokha. Nthaŵi zambiri, amafuna kuti anthu ozungulira adziwone ngati adani, kapena ngati omwe akulimbana nawo omwe akufunikira kuti apikisane nawo. Ali panjira yopindulira zotsatira zake, munthu wodzikonda, monga kale, amagwiritsa ntchito mawu akuti "Mapeto amatsimikizira njira".

Cholinga chake, chimawona kuti dziko loyandikana nalo ndilo gawo limene amamukonda ndikumangodabwa ndi mavuto ake. Apo ayi, amakhulupirira mwamphamvu kuti izi ziyenera kukhala choncho.

Chifukwa cha malingaliro ena, anthu ozungulirawa amazindikira mosavuta kudzikonda. Koma kudzipereka poyamba kuona munthu wamba wosadziwika amadziwonetsera yekha kukhala wachikondi, mtima wodzipereka. Izi zidzatha mpaka pali vuto lomwe lidzakakamiza munthu wodzikonda yekha kudzipereka. Koma chidziwitso sichinakonzedwe ichi, chifukwa, malingaliro ake, ayenera kuperekedwa nsembe, koma osati iye.

Kawirikawiri, kudzipereka kwa amayi ndilo liwu lofala kwambiri lomwe limalumikizana ndi chenicheni kuposa "chidziwitso cha amuna". Ndi zoona, kudzipereka koteroko ndi gawo laling'ono la chikazi.

Kodi mungatani kuti muthane ndi vutoli?

Ndi kudzipereka sizingatheke kumenyana mpaka munthu akuzindikira kuti akufuna kuchotsa. Pokhapokha ubwino wokhawokha wokha, kapena kusintha kwake komwe kuli koyenera kugwiritsa ntchito malingaliro ake apadera, ukhoza kumupulumutsa munthu kuti asamangoganiza mozama.

Ngati zikuchitika kuti kukhala wodzipereka kumapezeka mwa munthu pafupi ndi inu, ndiye kofunika ndi tcheru ndi chipiriro kulimbikitsa malingaliro anu okhudza kuthetsa chidziwitso chochokera kwa iwo.