Malingana ndi chiwerengero, kuyambira 1 mpaka 2% mwa anthu amamanga maubwenzi (onse okondana ndi chikondi), akuyesa wokondedwa wawo. Kawirikawiri, zinthu zochitidwa molakwika sizikukayikira kuti zili pansi pa chifuniro cha munthu wina ndikuchita mogwirizana ndi zikhumbo zake, kudziiwala zokha, zokhuza zawo ndi zosowa zawo. Komanso, ngakhale pambuyo pake, chinthu chogwedeza sichimverera mpumulo. M'malo mwake, anthu otero amakonda kwambiri mnzawo komanso kwa miyezi yambiri komanso zaka zambiri akumva chikondi chosaneneka kwa munthuyo.
Vuto la chibwenzi chifukwa cha kugwiritsidwa ntchito ndi kuti mmodzi wa abwenzi akukakamizidwa kuganiza kuti ndi amene amachititsa mavuto omwe amayamba panthawi yogwirizana. Amamva chisoni, akukumana ndi mavuto, koma samaganizira zomwe zimayambitsa zomwe zikuchitika. M'nkhaniyi, tilembera zizindikiro zonse za khalidwe lachinyengo, lomwe tikuyembekeza kuti lidzakuthandizani kuzindikira zolakwika pamayambiriro a chiyanjano, komanso njira zodzitetezera kuti muteteze chisawawa. Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti nthawi zina anthu omwe samadziwika ndi mphamvu zamaganizo amatha kugwiritsa ntchito njira zachinyengo. Pano izi zidzakhala zokhudzana ndi lingaliro la maganizo, pamene nkhaniyo, monga masewera a makadi a makanema, amachititsa mwachangu njira yodziwika bwino.
Imodzi mwa njira zowonongeka zomwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi osulator ndiyo kusinthira kapena kusokoneza kwadzidzidzi: "Zonse zinasokonekera ...", "Kodi mumalingaliro anu?". Wogwira ntchitoyo amatsutsa mfundo zomwe wokondedwa wake akunena, motero amamukakamiza kuti azikayikira yekha, m'maganizo ake, amachititsa kuti chithunzichi chiwonongeke. Pofuna kuthana ndi mawonekedwe a maganizo, ndikofunikira kusunga diary ndikufotokozera mwatsatanetsatane zochitika zomwe zimachitika. Tikulimbikitsanso kukambirana zomwe zikuchitika ndi achibale kapena katswiri wa zamaganizo.
Pakuti wogwiritsa ntchito manipulator ali ndi chizoloŵezi chokana kulakwa kwawo. Iye samavomereza kuti iye anali kulakwitsa. Anthu oterowo adzakuimbani mlandu uliwonse wa zolakwa kuti mutaya udindo. Mwachitsanzo, ogwira nawo ntchito amakufunsani zokolola zanu pamene zizindikiro zawo zimakhala zochepa. Kuti tisasokoneze nthawi yanu, tikulimbikitsanso kuti tisagwirizane ndi anthu oterewa.
Pazochitika zachinyengo, nkhaniyo nthawi zambiri imakokera mtima. Cholinga cha khalidweli ndikutsegula wina ndi mzake molakwika, kuti amve ngati munthu woipa. Mwachitsanzo, pamene mukuyesera kufotokoza momveka bwino kuti simukukonda chinachake, wochitapo kanthu angakhale: "Kotero, ndine munthu woipa. Kotero inu mukuganiza? ". Nthawi zambiri mawu oterewa akhoza kufotokozedwa mokhazikika, kuti asapereke chinthu cholakwika kuti athe kupereka ndemanga kwa otsogolera.
Kumbukirani kuti ndi kosavuta kugonjetsa munthu ku chifuniro chake, chomwe chimadalira kwambiri mnzanuyo. Choncho, imodzi mwa ntchito zazikulu za anthu oterewa ndikuteteza nthawi, chilengedwe komanso malingaliro a wogwiritsidwa ntchito. Pang'onopang'ono, phunziroli lidzagogomezera kuti mumangoganizira za iye yekha, ndikukudalira nthawi yake, yesetsani kuti mutenge banja lanu kapena abwenzi anu apamtima. Zosangalatsa zanu, zomwe poyamba zidakupatsani chisangalalo zidzakayikira. Pamapeto pake, mutha nthawi ngati woyang'anira akufuna. Apanso, mudzafunsa zomwe zimakupatsani chisangalalo komanso zokondweretsa komanso kugawana nawo zomwe mumakonda.
Ndikofunika kudziwa kuti kugwiritsidwa mwakuganiza, ngakhale kuti sikunatchule mawonetseredwe akunja, kungakhudze thanzi lanu. Zimakhala zosavuta kupeza maubwenzi oipa pamene zoopseza za chilengedwe zimalandiridwa. Samalani nokha, kumverera kwanu ndi zochitika zanu. Kudziwa njira zoyenera zokwiyitsa ndi kulamulira, zidzakuthandizani kupeza anthu odalirika ndi kuwaletsa kuti asalowe m'moyo wanu.