Kodi kukhulupirika ndi lingaliro lotani lomwe limaphatikizapo mbali zambiri za kukhalapo kwaumunthu. Popanda kudzipereka kwa inu nokha, okondedwa anu, anthu, chikhalidwe chawo, ntchito yawo ndi boma, munthu sangakhoze kuonedwa ngati munthu wokhwima ndi kukula mwauzimu.
Kodi chikhulupiliro ndi chiyani?
Kukhulupirika ndi gawo la makhalidwe ndi makhalidwe abwino - ndi khalidwe lachidziwitso ndi kusasinthika kwa malingaliro pakati pa maubwenzi, ntchito ya achibale, anthu, a Motherland. Kukhulupirika ndi kusakhulupirika ndi mbali ziwiri za ndalama zomwezo ndipo ngati kukhulupirika ndiko kudalirika, kukhalitsa, kukhazikika, kutetezeka ndi chikhulupiriro, ndiye kusakhulupirika ndiko kuphwanya kukhulupirika. Zimakhulupirira kuti zakumwa zazikulu (agalu, amphaka) zingakhalenso okhulupirika komanso odzipereka kwa ambuye awo.
Kodi mukufunikira kukhulupirika kwa munthu wamakono?
Kukhulupirika ndi kusakhulupirika ndi malingaliro awiri otsutsana, pafupifupi ngati zabwino ndi zoipa. Munthu wamakono alibe kale kutsogoleredwa ndi mfundo ndi makhalidwe ake akale, komabe kukhala wokhulupirika ndi chinthu chimene aliyense akufuna. Kukhala wokhulupirika ndi kunyengedwa sikungatheke kuti munthu asiye kusayanjana, chiwonongeko nthawi zonse chimawonekera pa moyo. Munthu wonyengedwa amasiya kukhulupirira, kudzibisa yekha, kapena, poyipitsa, amayamba kubwezera, kumutsutsa pogwiritsa ntchito ndi kumunyoza.
Kodi kukhulupirika kuli bwino nthawi zonse?
Chifukwa chake pali chisankho pakati pa kukhulupilika ndi kusakhulupirika ndi zifukwa zomwe zimamukakamiza munthu kusankha izi. Zomwe anthu amatsogoleredwa panthawi ya kusakhulupirika kapena kusakhulupirika, zimatha kukhumudwa kapena kusungulumwa pokhapokha ngati akuopseza moyo, palibe amene akudziwa. Anthu amakonda kutsutsa, akuwona nsonga zokhazokha, osati kuganiza kuti makamaka zimalimbikitsa munthu kupanga chisankho chotero, kotero ngati kukhulupirika kumakhala kosavuta - yankho la funsoli lidzakhala losiyana ndi zomwe zikuchitika:
- m'banja lomwe mmodzi kapena onse awiri sakondana wina ndi mzake ndikukhala ndi ana - kukhulupirika kuli ngati katundu, m'malo mokhala osangalala, ngakhale ndi ena;
- Nthawi zambiri mkazi kapena mwamuna amene wamwalira amadzipangira yekha mtanda ndikukhala ndi chikumbukiro cha chimwemwe chammbuyo - kukhulupirika kotere sikuli kotonthoza komanso kolungama.
Kukhulupirika mu chikondi
Pamene awiri amakondana, ena amangotsala pang'ono kukhalapo. Pa gulu lirilonse nthawi iyi yosangalatsa wina ndi mzake ikhoza kutenga nthawi zosiyana. Chikondi sichisiyanitsidwa ndi mayesero, wina amawapatula osasintha okha ndi okondedwa awo, wina ali ndi chosowa chotsimikizira wina kuti "Ndikhoza kuchita popanda iwe! Chikondi ndi chosiyana, nthawi zina kusintha sikuleka kukonda, koma ndi kovuta bwanji kunyengedwa. Momwe chikhulupiliro ndi chikondi zimagwirizanirana - kwa mabanja okondana omwe akhala pamodzi kwa zaka zambiri, ayankhe motere:
- chikondi ndi kukhulupirika zimayendera limodzi;
- pamene vuto limapangitsa kuti anthu asamvere chiwembu, kumverera kuti kumapweteka wokondedwa kumapweteka ndipo sikulola kuti chiwonongeko chichitike;
- kukhulupirika m'chikondi kumathandiza okwatirana kapena anthu achikondi mwauzimu, amapanga zonse.
Kukhulupirika mu ubale
Kodi kukhulupirika ndi ubwenzi zimagwirizana motani? Kwambiri - bwenzi lenileni ndilopanda kulingalira popanda kukhulupirika ndi kudzipatulira. Chochitika chosavuta kwambiri, pamene ubwenzi ukupambana nthawi ndi anthu ndi mabwenzi a moyo - uwu ndi mphatso yamtengo wapatali yomwe iyenera kuyamikiridwa. Kukhulupirika kwa bwenzi ndi:
- khalani pafupi pa nthawi zovuta;
- kusonyeza kuwona mtima ndikutha kudzudzula mwaluso ;
- khalani owona mtima;
- kusonyeza kuchitapo kanthu, kuthandizana, pamene thandizo likufunika.
Kukhulupirika kwa Ngongole
Kodi ntchito ndi kukhulupirika ndi ziti zomwe zimagwirizanitsa mfundo izi? Kukhulupirika ndi ntchito zimakhudza mbali zonse za moyo waumunthu. Anthu ali ndi maudindo osiyanasiyana:
- mwamuna;
- mnzanga;
- nzika za dziko lake;
- katswiri pa ntchito inayake;
- membala wa anthu.
Ndipo maudindo onsewa amaphatikizapo, kupatula nthawi zosangalatsa, kusunga maudindo ena, zomwe zikutsogoleredwa ndi zofuna za momwe ziyenera kukhalira. Kukhulupirika kuntchito m'madera amenewa kumawonetseredwa m'njira zosiyanasiyana, koma kawirikawiri ndi chikhumbo chogwirizana ndi wekha ndi mfundo zomwe sizinasinthe zaka mazana ambiri:
- M'banjamo, kukhulupirika kuntchito kumawululidwa bwino mu Baibulo, kugwirizanitsa ndi banja, mwamuna ndi mkazi akulonjeza kuti adzakhala "muchisoni ndi chimwemwe", kuti athetse bwino chuma ndi kulera ana.
- Kukhulupirika kudziko lawo ndi kudziko kumakhala ntchito pokhapokha ngati ntchito za usilikali kapena zochitika zadzidzidzi zisonyezera kukonda dziko ndikupulumutsa, kuteteza dziko lawo ngakhale phindu la miyoyo yawo.
- Kukhulupirika ndi ntchito zapadera zimakhala ndi cholinga cha munthu kuti apititse patsogolo moyo wa anthu, chilengedwe ndi zochitika zina, zochita, ndi kupeza.
- Kukhulupirika pakati pa mayiko ogwirizanitsa ndi udindo ndi udindo wa atsogoleri a mayiko wina ndi mnzake: kuthandizana panthawi zovuta, chithandizo pa chitukuko cha mafakitale.
Kukhulupirika ku ntchito
Kukhulupirika kwa ntchito yanu kumaphatikizapo kukonda chifukwa chosankhidwa ndi kudzipatulira. Pali ntchito zambiri, popanda kukhulupirika ndi kudzipatulira kumene kulibiretu pokhapokha kukhala mupadera. Mwachitsanzo, vuto lachipatala limafuna kubwezera kwakukulu kwa mphamvu, nthawi, dokotala wabwino siyekha. Anthu omwe ali ntchito zachinyengo saganizira za iwo okha kunja kwa izo, nthawi zambiri amakhala otanganidwa kwambiri, anthu otere amatchedwa kuwala kwa njira yosankhidwa ndi moyo wawo wonse omwe amapereka njirayi. Phindu laumwini pano limasewera gawo lomaliza.
Kukhulupirika kwa iwekha
Kodi mumadzikhulupilira nokha? Zaka mazana apitayi, izi zinatanthauzanso kukhulupirika kumakhalidwe abwino ndi ulemu, kudalira mtima wamkati, chikumbumtima , munthu sangathe kuchita mosiyana ndikutsogoleredwa ndi mfundo za mkati, ndipo lero pali anthu oterewa. Koma kukhala wodzipereka kwa inu nokha sikuti ndizomwe zili zoyenera zokhazokha, pali iwo omwe ali owona enieni mwa mawonetseredwe awo oopsya - zikhale zonyenga, zonyansa, kugwiritsa ntchito njira zosavomerezeka mu zida zawo.
Kodi mumasonyeza bwanji kuti ndinu wokhulupirika?
- Ndondomeko yamtengo wapatali ndizowatsogolera anthu zochita ndi zochita;
- palibe chifukwa chowonetsera chinachake kwa wina;
- mavuto amathetsedwa mwa kutenga udindo, osati kupeŵa;
- pali mgwirizano wamkati kuti munthu aliyense ali ndi ufulu kuchita monga akuwona kuti ndi woyenera popanda kukhudzidwa;
- Dzilemekezeni nokha ndi ena.