Makhalidwe a munthu ndi mawonekedwe a malingaliro osatsutsika omwe amadziwitsa makhalidwe a umunthu ndi khalidwe lake. Mu chikhalidwe cha khalidweli pali magulu anayi a makhalidwe omwe amasonyeza maganizo a munthu kumbali zosiyana siyana:
- kukhudzidwa, kukhala ndi moyo wabwino komanso kukhala ndi chidwi kumapereka munthu kwa anthu ena;
- khama, kugwira ntchito mwakhama, kutsitsimutsa kuzinthu zomwe munthu amagwira ntchito;
- Kudzudzula, kudzichepetsa, kunyada kumasonyeza khalidwe la munthu kwa iyemwini;
- kulondola, kusamalira mosamala zinthu kumapanga munthu ku zinthu.
Kuyanjana kotere kwa munthu kumakhazikitsidwa mwa njira zamakono zolankhulirana, khalidwe ndi ntchito.
M'nkhaniyi, tikukambirana gulu lachitatu la makhalidwe - ubale wa munthu kwa iye mwini, womwe umadzudzula, womwe ukuwonetseredwa ndi kuthekera kuti azindikire mozama zochita zawo ndi kuvomereza zolakwitsa. Kudzudzula ndi khalidwe lothandiza lomwe limathandiza anthu kusintha. Izi ndizoona nokha kuchokera kunja, zomwe zimakulolani kuti muwone ubwino ndi zovuta. Komabe, ziyenera kukumbukiridwa kuti kudzidzudzula sikuyenera kupita ku samoyedstva (kudzudzula mochuluka), komwe kuli ndi zotsatira zoipa.
Anthu omwe ali odzichepetsa pa moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku akufunafuna umboni wa maganizo oipa. Kwa iwo, cholakwika chirichonse chimasonyeza kusungulumwa. Chifukwa cha kulephera kapena vuto lililonse, iwo amakhala opanda chidwi komanso amadzidzimangiriza okha ("sali oyenerera", "opusa", "osakondweretsa" ndi zina zotero). Choncho, anthuwa potsutsana nawo okha amakana makhalidwe abwino ndikudziwona okha. Chifukwa chake, iwo amadzudzula mopambanitsa. Chikhalidwechi chimathandiza kudziona kuti ndiwe wodzitamandira, chifukwa kumapangitsa manyazi, kudziimba mlandu komanso kukhumudwitsa.
Mayeso Odziletsa
Mukhoza kuyesa zotsatira za kudzudzula pa inu mothandizidwa ndi mafunso otsatirawa:
Pafunso lirilonse la khumi ndi zisanu, sankhani chimodzi mwazofotokozera zisanu ndi ziwiri (1-ayi, 2-osati kuposa eya, 3-osati ayi; 4-ine sindikudziwa, 5-koma inde; , zomwe zimakufotokozerani mmene mumamvera.
- Ndizovuta kukhala osangalala, osakhala olemera, osakongola, osakhala anzeru komanso opanda luso.
- Anthu adzaganiza kwambiri za ine ngati ndikulakwitsa.
- Ngati ine nthawizonse ndimachita zinthu zolakwika, iwo samandilemekeza ine.
- Chizindikiro chofooka ndi pempho lothandizira.
- Ndifooka ngati sindikuyenda bwino ngati ena.
- Ngati palibe njira yochitira bwino, ndiye kuti palibe chifukwa chochita.
- Ndikhoza kulephera ngati ndikulephera kugwira ntchito.
- Ngati anthu samatsutsana nane, zikutanthauza kuti sindinkawakonda.
- Ndikawoneka ngati wopusa ndikafunsa funso.
- Ngati ndikufuna kuti ndikhale wogwira ntchito, ndiye kuti sindiyenera kuchoka pa chinthu chimodzi.
- Ngati sindiyika mafelemu apamwamba kwa ine ndekha, ndidzakhala mtsogoleri.
- Ngati anthu adziŵa zomwe ndili, anthu adzaganiza kwambiri kuposa ine.
- Anthu omwe ali ndi malingaliro abwino, iwo ndi abwino kuposa omwe samatero.
- Ngati ndilakwitsa, ndidzakwiya.
- Ngati ndilephera ngakhale pang'ono, ndiye kwa ine zidzatanthauza kulephera kwathunthu.
Tsopano yerekezerani mfundo: palibe - imodzi; Osapitirira kuposa inde - ziwiri; osati ayi-mfundo zitatu; Ine sindikudziwa - mfundo zinayi; M'malo mwake inde - zisanu; inde inde kuposa - zisanu ndi chimodzi; inde - zisanu ndi ziwiri.
Ndipo onani zotsatira:
- 54 mfundo kapena zochuluka ndi mlingo wapamwamba wodzidzudzula;
- 39 - msinkhu wamkati;
- 24 ndi zocheperapo ndizomwe zili zochepa.
Ndipo kotero, inu munayesa mayesero ndipo munatsimikiza kuti ndinu odzudzula. Tsopano ndi kwa inu kusankha ngati mukufunikira kudzudzula kapena ayi. Ndiwothandiza komanso kofunika kwa inu ndi okondedwa anu ndi khalidwe ili.